shower for second baby?

[Anonymous]

what's appropriate as far as a shower for a second baby? Should there be one if there isn't a big age difference? Does it matter if the two are different genders or the same?

[Anonymous]

This topic has been discussed repeatedly -- do a search and you'll find a lot of posts.

My personal opinion is that its tacky and greedy. I have no problem with a celebration for a second baby, but a shower has an expectation that a gift be given, and expecting people to buy you gifts for every baby (especially when, in theory, you should have a bouncy seat, high chair, bumbo, etc and a ton of other things from the first baby) is a little much. But a lot of people seem to disagree.

[Anonymous]

It's tacky to have a shower for the second.

[Anonymous]

I agree with the pp. Its tacky and greedy. If you have a party to celebrate the new baby, that's fine. Just don't ask for gifts. Write on the invite no gifts. People will still bring you things after the birth if that's what your worried about.

[Anonymous]

Stop focusing on gifts and money. Focus on the child you are celebrating the arrival of. Every child deserves a celebration. Parents deserve a celebration to share their joy and excitement. It also helps the older child prepare for the coming baby. You don't have to open gifts. You don't have to register. You can but don't have to. You can say "no gifts please". If you had a girly shower last time, include your husband and your joint friends this time. Showers do not have to be about gift giving. They don't have to be called showers. Outside the US, most people celebrate the coming of a new baby. This don't wear white shoes type tacky thing is an American and conventional attitude. If your friends want to throw a shower, feel blessed. You are lucky to have such generous, loving friends. If your friends think it's tacky, they won't come. I have been to countless second showers now. I never thought it tacky until I saw these posts and am kind of disgusted by way some posters react because it means that they are immediately jumping to the conclusion that you are required to bring a gift.

Do what you want. Have fun. And, congratulations on the baby coming!