How many hours does your 10th graders play computer games every day?
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Anonymous
| Just had another fight with my DC. DC goes to bed at 1am frequently. Lately I found out he was playing computer games with his friends at school. They introduce new games to DC and there is peer pressure to play. It’s a new form of drug. |
Anonymous
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It totally is.
My kid can’t play during the week. He has recognized that he can’t play at all during the week or he will fail out. He has multiple hours of homework a night plus sports practice or clubs. He does play on Friday or Saturday night with a buddy. It is definitely something I can’t wrap my head around bc it doesn’t seem fun to me. |
Anonymous
| My DD doesn't play video games, is it gender related maybe? She does go on Instagram... |
Anonymous
| I am struggling as well. Not sure how to deal with this. Talking to his advisor and expressing the concerns? Talking to his friends’ parents? Mine is an 11th grader. |
Anonymous
| Honest question, snark-free. My DCs attend independent schools, but I don’t understand why this question is in this forum. How does this tie directly to private/independent school kids? I know there are a lot of parents who could give great insight to this. Again, truly no snark. |
Anonymous
| We take and put away all devices from our kids at bedtime (they’re in middle school). It’s the only way. Can you disconnect the video games at night? I’m shocked at how late many kids are up every night gaming, texting, on social media, etc. |
Anonymous
| F’n Fortnite. I hate video games. |
Anonymous
| This isn't a new thing. My friends and I played games late at night even in the 1990s. Studies show that kids who play a lot of video games are actually better socially/cognitively adapted on average. However, when it starts interfering with school work or sleep then you have a problem. Rather than disciplining screen time for the sake of itself, I discipline based on grades and sleep. You must be in bed by a certain hour so I take all screens at that time. If grades are bad, screens/allowance goes away. |
Anonymous
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My kids usually finish after school activities and homework by 10 pm. What they do with their time after that is up to them. I'm totally fine if they game on line with friends. At least it's social.
Lights out by 11 for 9th-10th, with consequences for disrupting our sleep if they stay up too late. Once they are juniors, who are responsible drivers or 18-year-old seniors who will be off to college in less than a year, we suggest to them that more sleep is better, as they already know. But college kids need to know how to stay up late and still function at school. Second semester senior year is not a bad time to figure that out. Getting school work done and getting up and out to school on time are bright lines with household consequences. But a 16-year-old sophomore should be managing this sleep thing on their own. |
Anonymous
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We have a no phone, ipad or computer in the bedrooms at night. They get plugged in and charged in the kitchen downstairs.
My husband has cracked down on phones in their room after school as well since we saw the ridiculous about of time spent on Tiktok and snapchat. 10th grade and 8th grade boys. We notice a huge positive difference with the limits. |
Anonymous
| Read up on electronic use right up until bedtime. It REALLY messes with their sleep cycle. They should have no screens for some time before lights out. |
Anonymous
Same in our house, and we don't even let them take phones into their rooms during the day. I don't understand parents who are not helping their kids manage these addictions. |
Anonymous
| Phones, air pods, gaming controllers and school computers are all in my bedroom and charging by 9 pm. (If there is a major classroom assignment that’s being worked on, I’m flexible about that.). We also have screen time settings on the devices. |
Anonymous
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This is an easy fix. First have a conversation that this is not allowed during the school week, set your boundaries firmly but kindly. Have time limits for the weekend too. Then get a circle device to connect to your internet which you can control from your phone. Then set it so all devices have no internet (except your own phone) at a certain Time of night, you can control each device separately in your home, limited use of apps, filter inappropriate content etc. no devices except our don uses school laptop in bedroom for school work. He asks if he can talk to his friends in his room via FaceTime sometimes and I say yes, but phones are not typically allowed in bedrooms.
life changing!!!!! No more fights no more worries that he has his phone in his room at night. ( he doesn’t. It is still in the family room, where we leave all of our phones at night, when I come downstairs at 5:45am) A high schooler needs boundaries and Guidance with this gaming/phone addiction culture. Such a toxic waste if done until late at night regularly. |
Anonymous
| Why is this in the Private School forum? |