The more people post on social media the less I like them

[Anonymous]

Am I alone?

I rarely post, but I do use social media for having an immersive experience around my hobbies - cooking, design, etc.

I post once in a while (probably about once every 30-60 days).

I enjoy seeing friends post once in a while too, but I find myself become very turned off by people who post very frequently, especially if the posts are essentially all selfies or braggy posts. What sucks is that sometimes these are people I like IRL and their social media behavior makes me want to avoid them.

I know the “solution” to this is just to unfollow people or snooze them or whatever, and I do.

But I also want to know a) why am I so repelled by this behavior when so many other people seem to eat it up and reinforce it?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Am I alone?

I rarely post, but I do use social media for having an immersive experience around my hobbies - cooking, design, etc.

I post once in a while (probably about once every 30-60 days).

I enjoy seeing friends post once in a while too, but I find myself become very turned off by people who post very frequently, especially if the posts are essentially all selfies or braggy posts. What sucks is that sometimes these are people I like IRL and their social media behavior makes me want to avoid them.

I know the “solution” to this is just to unfollow people or snooze them or whatever, and I do.

But I also want to know a) why am I so repelled by this behavior when so many other people seem to eat it up and reinforce it?

I get this. After 40 I started to notice certain friends posting every thing they did. It became this need for validation. I even had a friend send me a pic and say "I noticed you didn't like this on facebook maybe you missed it what do you think?". Adults who need constant validation are tiring-on the flip side I feel bad for them that they feel they need constant attention.

[Anonymous]

I deleted social media completely. It’s freeing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I deleted social media completely. It’s freeing.

I have not been on Facebook or Instagram for over a month....it is freeing and I don't miss it. Probably time to delete.

[Anonymous]

I use instagram like a photo journal. I usually post 1-4x per month usually birthdays, vacations, first days of school, Halloween, etc. sorry if this bothers you.

I have unfollowed and started disliking people who post a lot on Facebook sharing their political opinions.

I personally like to see family and kid photos, even if they are doing something boring like a hike or yoga or raking leaves. I also like to see new places I have not been and may get ideas to eat somewhere new or go somewhere I have not been.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I use instagram like a photo journal. I usually post 1-4x per month usually birthdays, vacations, first days of school, Halloween, etc. sorry if this bothers you.

I have unfollowed and started disliking people who post a lot on Facebook sharing their political opinions.

I personally like to see family and kid photos, even if they are doing something boring like a hike or yoga or raking leaves. I also like to see new places I have not been and may get ideas to eat somewhere new or go somewhere I have not been.

NP here but I agree with the OP. Personally posters like you are great. I love seeing your pictures 1-4 days a month. I enjoy seeing the birthday photos and the cute costumes! What I can't stand is the daily posters. I have a few people that post at a minimum every single day, sometimes twice a day. My new pet peeve is Wordle. I think the game is great. But I really don't want to see how all of my friend did on it each day. As a snap shot 5 of my Facebook friends posted their Wordle scores yesterday. They post these every day!

[Anonymous]

I feel the same and doesn’t get why would one want to flaunt their life on daily basis but there are all sort of mental health issues out there so who knows.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I use instagram like a photo journal. I usually post 1-4x per month usually birthdays, vacations, first days of school, Halloween, etc. sorry if this bothers you.

I have unfollowed and started disliking people who post a lot on Facebook sharing their political opinions.

I personally like to see family and kid photos, even if they are doing something boring like a hike or yoga or raking leaves. I also like to see new places I have not been and may get ideas to eat somewhere new or go somewhere I have not been.

NP here but I agree with the OP. Personally posters like you are great. I love seeing your pictures 1-4 days a month. I enjoy seeing the birthday photos and the cute costumes! What I can't stand is the daily posters. I have a few people that post at a minimum every single day, sometimes twice a day. My new pet peeve is Wordle. I think the game is great. But I really don't want to see how all of my friend did on it each day. As a snap shot 5 of my Facebook friends posted their Wordle scores yesterday. They post these every day!

+1

Posting the Worlde scores is so dumb! Wow, it took you 5/6 tries for the 10th day in a row. Come back when you get it right on the first go. I noticed that the Wordle people are the ones who jump on every other social media bandwagon and won't stop posting/talking about it, even if they don't have full understanding of the situation, until the latest fad comes along.

[Anonymous]

Daily posters are the worst unless you’re doing something truly interesting.
Another pet peeve is the photo dump. If I post photos from a vacation, it’s 4-5 max. Who are the people posting 20 photos?? Again, if you’re someplace objectively cool, I will look at 20 photos from an overseas trip, etc. But not 20+ photos of your kids.
I’ll give you a pass if you’re in the baby stage and it’s your first.

[Anonymous]

I don't know why you are like that. Are you just cranky in general? Seems like a dumb thing to be bothered by, especially because, as you point out, there are remedies

[Anonymous]

I have one friend who posts daily about her kids and that word game but has never liked a single thing on my page which is just a photo monthly of what my kids are doing and we've been friends for decades and have kids the same age. She also loves to talk about how dedicated she is to the community and cares for others. She has some autistic kids. I take it as a mental deficiency with her and have come to the conclusion that posts are a way of interacting nicely with the world. She's nice in person. I just don't think she quite understands how to reciprocate. I've had to learn to not take it personally and just see it as a defect.

[Anonymous]

I have a friend in Arizona that will literally post about 5-8 times a day on Instagram. They are loaded and she is a SAHM and it is a constant barrage of her kids and their trips and their outings. It makes me wonder if she is even participating in any of it since she seems to constantly be documenting every.single.thing they do.

It's not that I like her less, it's a 'mental health' thing I worry about. How can you live your entire life through your phone?

I have never been on Facebook so I can only imagine how bad it is there too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have one friend who posts daily about her kids and that word game but has never liked a single thing on my page which is just a photo monthly of what my kids are doing and we've been friends for decades and have kids the same age. She also loves to talk about how dedicated she is to the community and cares for others. She has some autistic kids. I take it as a mental deficiency with her and have come to the conclusion that posts are a way of interacting nicely with the world. She's nice in person. I just don't think she quite understands how to reciprocate. I've had to learn to not take it personally and just see it as a defect.

I just posted after you and 'yes!' she never likes anything on anyone else's page

[Anonymous]

Psychology 101: Self centered social media posters tend to like posts of ones whom they want to develop a connection or improve an existing one . If you are of no value to them or they don’t perceive you as a social winner, they aren’t interested. If they like others of no or low value to them, it’s only to barter mire likes on their own posts to make them look popular because people tend to gravitate towards people of social value.

[Anonymous]

Social media is pretty much about adding value to your brand and networking with whom you find valuable.