Letting go of chores to spend quality time with child.

[Anonymous]

I’m total type A and like to get up very early on Sunday mornings to get stuff done. Today, while everyone else was still sleeping, my 8 year old woke up and was unusually chatty. He wanted to talk about Legos, show me how to design a dune buggy, talk about migration patterns and a book her just finished. I spent two hours with him and loved it because it’s getting harder and harder to spend time with him.

But nothing got done. Now everyone is awake (two little ones) and Sunday activities are in full swing. What I’d planned to do in the early hours will not get done this week.

It’s weird but I feel both good and bad about it. I know being totally present for him is more important and more enjoyable but I still feel lazy for not getting stuff done.

[Anonymous]

First, good for you! You made the right choice!

My DH is like you. He gets so focused on a task that he misses out on some adorable time with our 3 and 1.5 year olds. It’s not good.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m total type A and like to get up very early on Sunday mornings to get stuff done. Today, while everyone else was still sleeping, my 8 year old woke up and was unusually chatty. He wanted to talk about Legos, show me how to design a dune buggy, talk about migration patterns and a book her just finished. I spent two hours with him and loved it because it’s getting harder and harder to spend time with him.

But nothing got done. Now everyone is awake (two little ones) and Sunday activities are in full swing. What I’d planned to do in the early hours will not get done this week.

It’s weird but I feel both good and bad about it. I know being totally present for him is more important and more enjoyable but I still feel lazy for not getting stuff done.

What did you have to get done?

[Anonymous]

Yeah this depends on what the tasks were.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m total type A and like to get up very early on Sunday mornings to get stuff done. Today, while everyone else was still sleeping, my 8 year old woke up and was unusually chatty. He wanted to talk about Legos, show me how to design a dune buggy, talk about migration patterns and a book her just finished. I spent two hours with him and loved it because it’s getting harder and harder to spend time with him.

But nothing got done. Now everyone is awake (two little ones) and Sunday activities are in full swing. What I’d planned to do in the early hours will not get done this week.

It’s weird but I feel both good and bad about it. I know being totally present for him is more important and more enjoyable but I still feel lazy for not getting stuff done.

What did you have to get done?

OP here. Wash the car (we’re in LA) and go to the grocery store. I’m going to drive a dirty car this week and ordered the groceries for delivery.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m total type A and like to get up very early on Sunday mornings to get stuff done. Today, while everyone else was still sleeping, my 8 year old woke up and was unusually chatty. He wanted to talk about Legos, show me how to design a dune buggy, talk about migration patterns and a book her just finished. I spent two hours with him and loved it because it’s getting harder and harder to spend time with him.

But nothing got done. Now everyone is awake (two little ones) and Sunday activities are in full swing. What I’d planned to do in the early hours will not get done this week.

It’s weird but I feel both good and bad about it. I know being totally present for him is more important and more enjoyable but I still feel lazy for not getting stuff done.

What did you have to get done?

OP here. Wash the car (we’re in LA) and go to the grocery store. I’m going to drive a dirty car this week and ordered the groceries for delivery.

Yeah, you made the right choice!

[Anonymous]

Wash the car together

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wash the car together

This. Kids need time with us, but it doesn't have to always be on their terms. It's good for them to learn how long these tasks take. You can create fun memories doing things like washing the car together.

[Anonymous]

Go to a car wash if the dirty car bothers you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m total type A and like to get up very early on Sunday mornings to get stuff done. Today, while everyone else was still sleeping, my 8 year old woke up and was unusually chatty. He wanted to talk about Legos, show me how to design a dune buggy, talk about migration patterns and a book her just finished. I spent two hours with him and loved it because it’s getting harder and harder to spend time with him.

But nothing got done. Now everyone is awake (two little ones) and Sunday activities are in full swing. What I’d planned to do in the early hours will not get done this week.

It’s weird but I feel both good and bad about it. I know being totally present for him is more important and more enjoyable but I still feel lazy for not getting stuff done.

What did you have to get done?

OP here. Wash the car (we’re in LA) and go to the grocery store. I’m going to drive a dirty car this week and ordered the groceries for delivery.

Omg, do you wash your car every week?

[Anonymous]

A) why didn't you have DS wash the car with you?

B) why in hell would a busy mom of three waste time washing a car every week?

[Anonymous]

Oh OP. I have NEVER had this problem. The cleaning happens when everything else had been done and I can’t justify not doing it anymore

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m total type A and like to get up very early on Sunday mornings to get stuff done. Today, while everyone else was still sleeping, my 8 year old woke up and was unusually chatty. He wanted to talk about Legos, show me how to design a dune buggy, talk about migration patterns and a book her just finished. I spent two hours with him and loved it because it’s getting harder and harder to spend time with him.

But nothing got done. Now everyone is awake (two little ones) and Sunday activities are in full swing. What I’d planned to do in the early hours will not get done this week.

It’s weird but I feel both good and bad about it. I know being totally present for him is more important and more enjoyable but I still feel lazy for not getting stuff done.

What did you have to get done?

OP here. Wash the car (we’re in LA) and go to the grocery store. I’m going to drive a dirty car this week and ordered the groceries for delivery.

"Dirty" lol

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m total type A and like to get up very early on Sunday mornings to get stuff done. Today, while everyone else was still sleeping, my 8 year old woke up and was unusually chatty. He wanted to talk about Legos, show me how to design a dune buggy, talk about migration patterns and a book her just finished. I spent two hours with him and loved it because it’s getting harder and harder to spend time with him.

But nothing got done. Now everyone is awake (two little ones) and Sunday activities are in full swing. What I’d planned to do in the early hours will not get done this week.

It’s weird but I feel both good and bad about it. I know being totally present for him is more important and more enjoyable but I still feel lazy for not getting stuff done.

What did you have to get done?

OP here. Wash the car (we’re in LA) and go to the grocery store. I’m going to drive a dirty car this week and ordered the groceries for delivery.

Go to the car wash and order groceries in the future. Use the 2 hours each eeek you save for me time or to spend with your kids. Worth the money.

[Anonymous]

Do chores with the kids