How many dates before calling it quits

[Anonymous]

How many dates with someone would you go on to determine if the person had potential for something long-term? This is assuming all of the dates just went ok

[Anonymous]

OK but something there that gives me hope? 3. Just ok dates, probably 1-2

[Anonymous]

Why were they just “ok”?

if the chemistry isn’t there then you’ll have to work toward it.

Or, just throw in the towel and say it’s not going to work.

[Anonymous]

4 dates if you really get on, but don't get it on with him until you think he's has long term potential

[Anonymous]

You really need more than "ok" at the start, if it's going to last for the long haul. Sorry.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OK but something there that gives me hope? 3. Just ok dates, probably 1-2

Agreed, 1 or 2 for “ok dates”. More than that and you’re saying you will settle for “ok” in a relationship.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You really need more than "ok" at the start, if it's going to last for the long haul. Sorry.

+1

[Anonymous]

I’d say three, but don’t sleep with them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You really need more than "ok" at the start, if it's going to last for the long haul. Sorry.

Depends on the culture and expectations.

“Ok” without the lows and the highs works for millions of people for hundreds of years.

[Anonymous]

2

[Anonymous]

3 seems to be the cap.

[Anonymous]

For those saying 3, just curious how much ground you cover in those three dates?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:For those saying 3, just curious how much ground you cover in those three dates?

Don’t beat this to death. If you spend 2 or 3 dates with someone you know if there’s potential or not. Especially if there’s not.

[Anonymous]

Yeah, if she hasn’t wowed me in two dates, not much point in continuing.

[Anonymous]

OP here. We’ve been on 3 dates. The conversation is fine. He’d like to go out again. Nothing physical has happened. In the past I’ve called it a wrap after two dates. I’m newly dating again at middle age and have been surprised at how crappy the dating market is at this stage. Makes me wonder if I should keep dating someone as long as there are no red flags.