Bringing brother to girl scouts

[Anonymous]

There's a family in our troop that is ALWAYS bringing a little brother to Girl Scout events and it's annoying because he's younger and not a bad kid or anything but kind of obnoxious in the little brother way and although they usually pay his way for things he often ends up using resources meant for the troop. The mom says "I don't have child care for him" but these aren't events she's required to chaperone, they are things she's choosing to attend for her own sake. It's annoying my daughter and I'm not sure if I should talk to the mom directly or to the troop leader? My daughter loves her friends in her troop and loves her girl time (she has two younger brothers herself!!!)

[Anonymous]

I would say something to the troop leader.

[Anonymous]

I probably wouldn’t say anything - but if I did, it would be to the leader if anyone.

[Anonymous]

I would talk to the troop leader. As a troop leader myself I'm always very direct as to whether siblings are invited or not. Maybe your leader could specify that any chaperones or volunteers should not be caring for other children at the event. It's probably driving your troop leader crazy too.

[Anonymous]

I don't think it's appropriate for you to complain if there is not a rule against it.

[Anonymous]

Come on.

Scouts is about a parent spending time with a child. If she doesnt have childcare for him, show some sympathy.

and FWIW, I was a boy scout troop leader of years and it was not unusual for little sisters (and sometimes little brothers if they weren't old enough for Cub scouts) to crash the party.

And they were ALWAYS welcome. Scouts is not supposed to be a drop off activity It's supposed to be quality time with a parent/caretaker

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Come on.

Scouts is about a parent spending time with a child. If she doesnt have childcare for him, show some sympathy.

and FWIW, I was a boy scout troop leader of years and it was not unusual for little sisters (and sometimes little brothers if they weren't old enough for Cub scouts) to crash the party.

And they were ALWAYS welcome. Scouts is not supposed to be a drop off activity It's supposed to be quality time with a parent/caretaker

Boy Scouts are different - parents were required to stay more after the abuse. GS they are not required to stay in the same way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Come on.

Scouts is about a parent spending time with a child. If she doesnt have childcare for him, show some sympathy.

and FWIW, I was a boy scout troop leader of years and it was not unusual for little sisters (and sometimes little brothers if they weren't old enough for Cub scouts) to crash the party.

And they were ALWAYS welcome. Scouts is not supposed to be a drop off activity It's supposed to be quality time with a parent/caretaker

That’s not true. My son was in cub Scouts and entire families were welcome. The activities were fun. My daughter often came and sometimes even brought her friends. All were welcome. Now my daughter is in Girl Scouts and it’s the opposite. I’m not even allowed to be there if I’m not one of the official volunteers. It’s structured and cold and not fun. I’m sure it’s our troop by in middle experience Boy Scouts was a bit of organized chaos and all were welcome. Girl Scouts is all about rules.

To op - is there a rule about having siblings there? Or some type of covid rule? Our troop would be all over that and constantly uses covid restrictions for why people can’t come or why we can’t do things. Check. (Or let the kid come and not worry about it.)

[Anonymous]

It’s also possible that you don’t have all the facts. Her daughter may have a hidden disability or some other reason that the mother needs to be there. This is the only way to make that happen then that’s better than having the girl be excluded. But other family also doesn’t Owe you an explanation if that’s the case

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s also possible that you don’t have all the facts. Her daughter may have a hidden disability or some other reason that the mother needs to be there. This is the only way to make that happen then that’s better than having the girl be excluded. But other family also doesn’t Owe you an explanation if that’s the case

While anything is theoretically possible - when you hear hoof beats it’s usually a horse and not a zebra.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Come on.

Scouts is about a parent spending time with a child. If she doesnt have childcare for him, show some sympathy.

and FWIW, I was a boy scout troop leader of years and it was not unusual for little sisters (and sometimes little brothers if they weren't old enough for Cub scouts) to crash the party.

And they were ALWAYS welcome. Scouts is not supposed to be a drop off activity It's supposed to be quality time with a parent/caretaker

huh? Parent spending time with a kid? Our only adults are the leader and coleader

[Anonymous]

My son is in boy scout, and I always bring his sister with me. I don't have childcare for her & she wants to come. So far so good, and no one has complained about it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Come on.

Scouts is about a parent spending time with a child. If she doesnt have childcare for him, show some sympathy.

and FWIW, I was a boy scout troop leader of years and it was not unusual for little sisters (and sometimes little brothers if they weren't old enough for Cub scouts) to crash the party.

And they were ALWAYS welcome. Scouts is not supposed to be a drop off activity It's supposed to be quality time with a parent/caretaker

No it's not. It's a way for girls to be with other girls and give back to the community.

[Anonymous]

Cub Scouts and Girl Scouts function differently. Siblings who are not in the Girl Scout troop are not meant to attend meetings or most outings, nor are parents who are not leaders/volunteers/chaperones.

[Anonymous]

Out of curiosity, if they're paying his way for things, what resources is he using that is bothering your daughter? Drinking a box of juice? Eating a few goldfish? What could possibly be the issue?