Gay son and prom

[Anonymous]

Has anyone experienced their gay son attending prom? I am agonizing over what to advise my son, if at all. In 2022 do guys go with guys to prom?

[Anonymous]

Is your son asking for your advice?

[Anonymous]

My understanding is a lot of kids go to prom as a group. Friends gay daughter went with her GF but 6 of them went all together and shared limo etc.

[Anonymous]

That was also my question-is he actually asking for advice? He will know the school culture. Where I live this would be a non-issue, although in my smallish city it seems like it's considered cooler to go with your group of friends vs in couples.

[Anonymous]

Does he want to take a date? Go for it.

Unless if you live in a rural, small town environment, I can't see this being a particular issue these days.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Does he want to take a date? Go for it.

Unless if you live in a rural, small town environment, I can't see this being a particular issue these days.

Easy to say but my kid said there were no publicly dating male couples at his Bethesda area high school.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Does he want to take a date? Go for it.

Unless if you live in a rural, small town environment, I can't see this being a particular issue these days.

Easy to say but my kid said there were no publicly dating male couples at his Bethesda area high school.

What does *he* want to do? Does he have a date he wants to take to the prom?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Does he want to take a date? Go for it.

Unless if you live in a rural, small town environment, I can't see this being a particular issue these days.

Easy to say but my kid said there were no publicly dating male couples at his Bethesda area high school.

At my daughter's school (BCC), I can't imagine this would be an issue.

[Anonymous]

The kids all go in a group, gay or not gay. Personally I think it's a great thing to encourage all kids to do. Not stress over who asks who, or even worse, the "prom-posal"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Does he want to take a date? Go for it.

Unless if you live in a rural, small town environment, I can't see this being a particular issue these days.

Easy to say but my kid said there were no publicly dating male couples at his Bethesda area high school.

At my daughter's school (BCC), I can't imagine this would be an issue.

Curious— ask your daughter how many male couples she knows of at BCC.

[Anonymous]

Let him do what makes him happy. A child I was a Nanny for for 7 years and stayed in touch with had a girlfriend in HS. Mom acted like she was ok with until prom. Daughter said she wanted to go with GF but in a group of 6. Mom said no, if you go to prom you go with a guy. She didn’t go to prom. She’s in her Kate 20s now but will always have this memory of not going to prom and why…….

[Anonymous]

I would think that it wouldn't be that bad in this area. And if it's his senior year, really who cares?

[Anonymous]

You might have more responses on Reddit. There are several different LGBTQ+ subreddits. One is askgaymen. https://www.reddit.com/r/AskGayMen/

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Let him do what makes him happy. A child I was a Nanny for for 7 years and stayed in touch with had a girlfriend in HS. Mom acted like she was ok with until prom. Daughter said she wanted to go with GF but in a group of 6. Mom said no, if you go to prom you go with a guy. She didn’t go to prom. She’s in her Kate 20s now but will always have this memory of not going to prom and why…….

Oh god, that's so painful. Her daughter will always know that her mother was ashamed of her (and may still be). My parents are ashamed of me as well. Parents that make everything about them are the worst. Your child's prom isn't about you. It's for them and about them and they should be able to do whatever makes them happy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Let him do what makes him happy. A child I was a Nanny for for 7 years and stayed in touch with had a girlfriend in HS. Mom acted like she was ok with until prom. Daughter said she wanted to go with GF but in a group of 6. Mom said no, if you go to prom you go with a guy. She didn’t go to prom. She’s in her Kate 20s now but will always have this memory of not going to prom and why…….

Oh god, that's so painful. Her daughter will always know that her mother was ashamed of her (and may still be). My parents are ashamed of me as well. Parents that make everything about them are the worst. Your child's prom isn't about you. It's for them and about them and they should be able to do whatever makes them happy.