Has your spouse changed in looks since you got married? How much?

[Anonymous]

How long have you been married? How do? Was it because of pregnancy, job loss, years? Better or worse? Looking at myself- ugh, married 15 years, didn’t gain much but oh, my wrinkles and jowls. Glad my husband loves me.

Just curious.

[Anonymous]

We met when I was 17 and he was 21. We're now in our mid 30's and he's just kind of ... filled out a bit more? Less boy-body, more man-body. We're both pretty good at sunscreen and hydrating and minimal alcohol. I think the one thing that wears us down physically is lack of sleep sometimes.

[Anonymous]

We've been together for 22 years. When my small kids see pictures of us together at 19 years old, they ask me who I'm with in the photo.

My spouse does look different. He was 6'5" and 180 lbs when I met him. A rail. Went up to 235 and now back down to 190. A health scare got him exercising and drastically reducing booze.
Even so, he's always been handsome to me.

[Anonymous]

We’ve been together since we were 18/19 and are 37/38 now. He looks the same except that he’s lost a little hair and gained probably 10 lbs but he was super skinny then so the extra weight looks better on him. I think I actually look better now. I’ve learned how to dress better, my hair looks healthier now (I used to dye it all the time), I’ve actually lost weight and look more toned now due to exercise and better dietary habits. Only thing that looks worse on us now is the stress and lack of sleep due to kids has given us a tired look.

[Anonymous]

Over 17 years he has become thinner, zero belly (he had the starts of one before) his skin is better and his hair is greatly improved - it's v v short instead of long like a roadie.

How is this?

When I met him he drank, smoked, ate gluten and didn't exercise and then he became the opposite of that.

[Anonymous]

Married 14. The big difference is that he’s bald now, but somehow he’s hotter than he was when I met him. He does have more wrinkles but I wonder if I don’t notice them because I’m indoctrinated with the idea that wrinkles on men are fine and in women they’re something to be fixed.

I have changed a lot: more wrinkles, weight has fluctuates, stomach is no longer toned and flat. But it’s all what you’d expect. Aging happens. I am pretty sure DH didn’t expect me to look the same forever. How dumb would that be.

[Anonymous]

Married 35, together 40. In our 50s. I am the same weight-wise, DH has put on a lot of weight and is slightly balding. I look quite good (but not like a spring chicken) but I have to do more things in daily life to look good and it is tiring - exercise, take supplements, color hair, wear makeup, choose clothes carefully, maintain my hair, contacts, take care of my skin, maintain my teeth etc.

[Anonymous]

Together 16 yrs, married 12 yrs, so of course we’ve aged. I’m not as muscular as I used to be, and my face is sharper and showing crows feet. He’s a bit droopier now in the face and has some gray, but he still has a nice head of hair and a tight little derrière.

[Anonymous]

There's this thing called aging that changes our looks, and they know was causes it: the passage of time.

[Anonymous]

DH has gotten back into shape, over the past year. He hasn’t become a gym bro, but has a solid workout routine. He had been great about not letting workouts interfere with family times/obligations.

I had definitely noticed how good he looks but it really hasn’t change anything in our relationship. When we were at the beach, I defiantly did enjoy the ogling he was getting from other woman on the beach.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How long have you been married? How do? Was it because of pregnancy, job loss, years? Better or worse? Looking at myself- ugh, married 15 years, didn’t gain much but oh, my wrinkles and jowls. Glad my husband loves me.

Just curious.

Both of us have but its beyond our control so what are you gonna do. Fortunately, neither of us is superficially shallow so even though it sucks, not a huge deal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There's this thing called aging that changes our looks, and they know was causes it: the passage of time.

Infancy, toddler hood and midlife are the times when most accelerated aging happens but otherwise we are aging everyday.

[Anonymous]

My body has changed from having kids: my boobs went from beautifully rounded sex objects to deflated baby-feeders. Husband went bald but got super fit. It’s kind of annoying how much attention he gets from other women.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There's this thing called aging that changes our looks, and they know was causes it: the passage of time.

Yes. Dh and I have been together since we were 20 yo. We are 50. I was 125lbs then, 135 now. He was 165 then, 180 now. We are both healthy and fit. Most importantly, we still love each other and we are still attracted to each other.

[Anonymous]

Ex DW had gained 32 lbs. I just couldn't...