Ghosting after sex

[Anonymous]

Seriously, who does this? What is the lead up to sex with someone that you ghost afterwards.
I’ve had ONSs that I didn’t even ghost. Goodbye, yes; ghost, no.

[Anonymous]

They ghost because they know they led the woman and it’s just easier, for them, to let her figure it out.

[Anonymous]

Women don’t get to complain about ghosting, they do it without hesitation when it suits them.

[Anonymous]

What is the context OP? There’s a big difference in expectations between someone you’ve known and dated for a while as compared to someone you’ve simply been texting with for a few weeks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Seriously, who does this? What is the lead up to sex with someone that you ghost afterwards.
I’ve had ONSs that I didn’t even ghost. Goodbye, yes; ghost, no.

I think it's really common to either break up or ghost when the main goal is sex for men and not a long term relationship. I see this happening even in one year relationships.

[Anonymous]

I would say, people who don’t really care one way or the other about the other person. It’s not that’s there’s anything wrong with the other person. The perpetrator of the ghosting literally is not considering the other person’s feelings. It just doesn’t register. They are off to whatever thing has captured their attention next. They’ll likely repeat that pattern with others. It’s very rude, but probably should not be taken personally. It’s them, not you.

[Anonymous]

I was ghosted by my college boyfriend after a two-year relationship. Immature a$$wh.les do this! He came back a year later and proposed. Yeah, right!

[Anonymous]

When are you having sex? If it is the third date, or second or first it is easy to ghost. Consider take longer to know the person. They still might ghost but you would not be ghosted after sex.

Dating is about meeting a lot of people. There is no expectation of not being ghosted. Date a lot of men casually and see where it goes.

[Anonymous]

Don't give it up so easily.

[Anonymous]

Ghosting is unbelievably rude, immature and misogynist. On the plus side, it indicates character traits that I really don’t want to have contact with, so when it happens, I prefer to think, “I’m so glad that loser ghosted me.”

TBH, I wish my ex had ghosted me. Instead, he kept me around and lied to me for years. That was a huge waste of my time during an important time in my life.

Be grateful that a ghoster is gone. Yes, you deserve to be treated with some courtesy but TBH, some people aren’t capable of it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was ghosted by my college boyfriend after a two-year relationship. Immature a$$wh.les do this! He came back a year later and proposed. Yeah, right!

Same. Immaturity.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ghosting is unbelievably rude, immature and misogynist. On the plus side, it indicates character traits that I really don’t want to have contact with, so when it happens, I prefer to think, “I’m so glad that loser ghosted me.”

TBH, I wish my ex had ghosted me. Instead, he kept me around and lied to me for years. That was a huge waste of my time during an important time in my life.

Be grateful that a ghoster is gone. Yes, you deserve to be treated with some courtesy but TBH, some people aren’t capable of it.

How is it misogynistic?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ghosting is unbelievably rude, immature and misogynist. On the plus side, it indicates character traits that I really don’t want to have contact with, so when it happens, I prefer to think, “I’m so glad that loser ghosted me.”

TBH, I wish my ex had ghosted me. Instead, he kept me around and lied to me for years. That was a huge waste of my time during an important time in my life.

Be grateful that a ghoster is gone. Yes, you deserve to be treated with some courtesy but TBH, some people aren’t capable of it.

+1000. You have to keep in mind: some people are immature and ghost, but leave you alone to live your life. Then the next level of bad is people who keep you around to eff with you, kind of like they are making fun of you. Then the worst is straight up abusers who are possessive, jealous and won’t let you go. Makes you thankful you simply got ghosted.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ghosting is unbelievably rude, immature and misogynist. On the plus side, it indicates character traits that I really don’t want to have contact with, so when it happens, I prefer to think, “I’m so glad that loser ghosted me.”

TBH, I wish my ex had ghosted me. Instead, he kept me around and lied to me for years. That was a huge waste of my time during an important time in my life.

Be grateful that a ghoster is gone. Yes, you deserve to be treated with some courtesy but TBH, some people aren’t capable of it.

+1000. You have to keep in mind: some people are immature and ghost, but leave you alone to live your life. Then the next level of bad is people who keep you around to eff with you, kind of like they are making fun of you. Then the worst is straight up abusers who are possessive, jealous and won’t let you go. Makes you thankful you simply got ghosted.

Both suck

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was ghosted by my college boyfriend after a two-year relationship. Immature a$$wh.les do this! He came back a year later and proposed. Yeah, right!

Same. Immaturity.

- similar story here. I messed myself up over it for years (too long I realize) but it can really less you up and I wish I had gotten help earlier!