is this normal infant behavior?
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Anonymous
| It takes me 1-2 hours to get my infant back to sleep at night after feeding. What the heck? I feel like i'm living in some kind of hell. |
Anonymous
| Is baby fussing or just awake? Can you put baby down and go back to sleep yourself? Is this new behavior or always like this? |
Anonymous
| How old? For very young infants, they may have day/night confusion and you have to,help them adjust themselves. When you feed st night, keep the lighting dim or off, no real noise, then put them right down. Don’t interact very much so that they think it’s playtime. |
Anonymous
| Yes it’s normal but your baby will go through phases and you have to teach them sleep hygiene. That’s why there are so many debates about sleep training, cry it out, having kids in your bed, etc |
Anonymous
| You are waking the baby. Too much light, too much movement, too much. If the baby is over 6 weeks, the baby does not need to eat during the night. |
Anonymous
Sorry, did you just say “over 6 weeks”? You must’ve meant over 6 months. |
Anonymous
| Does he sleep well during the day? I'd try to get them to stay up a little more during the day, its probably day/night confusion as another poster mentioned |
Anonymous
| My first kid was like that. Also not a good napper. It was awful. It improved at six months when we put a lovey in his crib. |
Anonymous
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I think we need more information to opine on whether it is "normal." How old is your baby? How often does he/she eat? What are you doing to help baby back to sleep, if anything? Regardless, I don't think there is really a "normal"; babies are constantly changing (particularly their eating and sleeping) and, of course, are all different. Our six month old often takes 1-1.5 hours to go back to sleep after he eats at night. It sucks. We've sleep trained (we do a modified Ferber with checks every 10-15 minutes), but we won't drop the feed (which he wakes up for) because he's had some weight issues. Sleep training has helped this to happen less often, but not eliminated it. I would suspect many, many parents are lucky enough to not encounter this, but I don't think it is abnormal. In our case, he's been waking for long stretches at night since about four months. Prior to that, he would fall back asleep faster, but we also were rocking him/soothing him back to sleep.
If you share some more details, posters might be able to offer some suggestions, such as sleep training if baby is age appropriate. |
Anonymous
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Thanks. I'm too tired to even write properly.
Baby was born 33 weeks old - is now 3 weeks "adjusted" age. He should be sleeping and easy to fall asleep but he fights it so hard. One of my other kids was like this but older. He is eating every 3/4 hours. I bottle feed and nurse - mostly he gets bottles of expressed milk. This is my 3rd kid so I know the night time "rules". THere are no lights on, I don't talk to him, just feed and burp. He jus fights the sleep so much. I do think he has reflux. He is gaining weight well. Taking 4 oz feeds which seems like a lot for a premie who weighs almost 10 lbs. |
Anonymous
| Can you try more frequent but smaller feedings? Maybe he's getting an upset stomach? |
Anonymous
| Does he sleep/nap better during the day? Does he cry after all feeds? Could he have his days and nights mixed up still? My baby had silent reflux and cried a lot after feedings at that age. It took us a bit to figure out that was it because, you know, a lot of babies just cry often. Our baby also would not take a full feed, however. |
Anonymous
| Are you using pacifiers? It made a big difference for my child. Yes, it's a crutch, but the suckling reflex is VERY strong in the newborn days so it will either be you or the pacifier, and the pacifier doesn't need to function as a human and get sleep. Paci use did not interfere with nursing for me or anyone I know |
Anonymous
| Get the snoo. |