Balance of text messages

[Anonymous]

How much are you cognizant of who initiates text messages? It feels like I always initiate text messages but the woman I’ve started to date always responds. How much is too much after a few dates? She’s seemed very interested and things seem to be going well. But, I don’t want it to also become I text first then she has to, too.

[Anonymous]

If she didn't like you, she would not be responding enthusiastically to the texts. So I don't think you need to worry about that.

Want to stand out from the crowd in her mind? Here's a novel idea - pick up the phone and call her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If she didn't like you, she would not be responding enthusiastically to the texts. So I don't think you need to worry about that.

Want to stand out from the crowd in her mind? Here's a novel idea - pick up the phone and call her.

Nobody wants that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If she didn't like you, she would not be responding enthusiastically to the texts. So I don't think you need to worry about that.

Want to stand out from the crowd in her mind? Here's a novel idea - pick up the phone and call her.

Nobody wants that.

If she likes him, she does.

[Anonymous]

How long has it been? This is the equivalent to "wait until he calls you." If you like her and she's responsive, don't give it too much thought.

[Anonymous]

I would place way more emphasis to how she acts on your dates with her than something like this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How long has it been? This is the equivalent to "wait until he calls you." If you like her and she's responsive, don't give it too much thought.

Two dates but they’ve been spaced out bc of the holidays and life circumstances. And we have another one planned and she keeps saying we should do this or that. And we did have one long phone call, she’s said she’s not a phone person.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If she didn't like you, she would not be responding enthusiastically to the texts. So I don't think you need to worry about that.

Want to stand out from the crowd in her mind? Here's a novel idea - pick up the phone and call her.

Nobody wants that.

If she likes him, she does.

No, she doesn't. Nobody wants a cold call.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How long has it been? This is the equivalent to "wait until he calls you." If you like her and she's responsive, don't give it too much thought.

Two dates but they’ve been spaced out bc of the holidays and life circumstances. And we have another one planned and she keeps saying we should do this or that. And we did have one long phone call, she’s said she’s not a phone person.

See! Told you so! Nobody wants that!

[Anonymous]

OP, are you also a woman? If you're not, it may be that she's old-fashioned about the man initiating.

I'm a feminist and yet....it would bother me when a man I was dating didn't text first. My now DH nearly always initiated conversations and that is what I prefer.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If she didn't like you, she would not be responding enthusiastically to the texts. So I don't think you need to worry about that.

Want to stand out from the crowd in her mind? Here's a novel idea - pick up the phone and call her.

Nobody wants that.

If she likes him, she does.

No. I’m a woman and I hate talking on the phone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would place way more emphasis to how she acts on your dates with her than something like this.

+1 especially since she's prompt in responding to you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How much are you cognizant of who initiates text messages? It feels like I always initiate text messages but the woman I’ve started to date always responds. How much is too much after a few dates? She’s seemed very interested and things seem to be going well. But, I don’t want it to also become I text first then she has to, too.

I think I can see your future post…I always initiate and my wife/girlfriend never does…

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How much are you cognizant of who initiates text messages? It feels like I always initiate text messages but the woman I’ve started to date always responds. How much is too much after a few dates? She’s seemed very interested and things seem to be going well. But, I don’t want it to also become I text first then she has to, too.

I think I can see your future post…I always initiate and my wife/girlfriend never does…

But if he sends all the good mornings, all the good nights, everything. And she just responds. Shouldn’t she initiate too?

[Anonymous]

Maybe she wakes up after you do? Maybe she has a morning recurring call or workout routine. Maybe she’s trying to not appear clingy. Maybe she truly isn’t clingy. Maybe she’s walking a pet or making her morning coffee?