Saying yes to him makes his head explode

[Anonymous]

I’m in the midst of the divorce. We’re too poor for lawyers.
Ex is quick to anger over little things, which is one of the reasons I am leaving.
He tends to demand things and make threats, most of which are empty since I know they are not legally enforceable.
Usually I try and explain to him that it won’t work that way, that it isn’t legally enforceable, or I don’t think a judge is going to allow that, etc. and this tends to cause things to escalate. For example, he tried to convince me that he could win 100 percent custody of the kids because I had shown myself to be unstable due coming out as bi.
Today he demanded I sign something (totally not legally enforceable but I did not say that) and I was like sure, just send it over and I’ll sign it.
This seemed to cause him to short circuit. He immediately got frustrated with me, even though I did not argue or delay to agree to what he wanted. I asked what’s the matter and he got really angry and said I made him sick, etc etc.
What is up with people like this? He argues and gets angry if I disagree or push back on something, but if I agree to something then he totally loses his $hit.

[Anonymous]

I don’t know why but my DH does this sometimes. I usually brush him off and point out that I responded yes so why is the conversation continuing? I think he assumes I’ll say no and he has counterpoints ready and can’t stop himself from saying them. He’s soooo long winded so I just read DCUM on my phone as he goes on and on.

[Anonymous]

Who cares? Anxiety, depression. Some mental issues. Point is you need to set boundaries. Next time he goes over the top like this, you tell him you will engage after he calms down and asks politely. You ignore the subsequent tantrum. If he wants you to cooperate he needs to understand the rules of engagement.

[Anonymous]

OP your STBX is a narcissist. Research that.