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Why do people over-annunciate your name pick when they don't like it. In question form.
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Anonymous
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I am really starting to rethink telling anyone our name pick. I did a name poll between my name and another name on this board a few months ago, and it got pages and pages of "love it". Not that that matters, but I'm just writing that so you don't think it's some off the wall name. If someone doesn't like it, it is really annoying that they can't just lie and be polite!
It always goes something like this. "So, have you been thinking about names?" "Yes, I really like Xyz." "EeeexWhyyyZeeee?!?! Oh." Seriously? Just say, that's cute, or that's nice. Or, I like it. |
Anonymous
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Very funny. The next time someone does that, say, "I hope your aren't planning on pronouncing it that way after he/she's born."
I assume the name is somewhat unusual? I think that's what the rude person is trying to convey by the overpronunciation. |
Anonymous
| Whether you've chosen a common or a more unusual name, there will always be someone who doesn't like it or has a comment about it. I found it easier to say we were keeping the name we chose to ourselves - I only liked one girl's name, so I really didn't care if other people hated it, because there wasn't a back up choice. I've also noticed that people tend to be more polite about names once the baby is born - it's a little harder to say "oh, I HATE that name" without feeling like a jerk when little Hepzibah is right there. |
Anonymous
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I don't think that necessarily means they don't like it. If it's even slightly unusual, they might just thinking it out loud to make sure they've got it and will remember it.
You are probably going to need to tell us what it is. 
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Anonymous
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It's Reid. I just didn't want to bias you in case you hate it.
Ugh, I hate my in-laws. "R-EEEE-Duh?! Oh I'm not on board with that." Well too bad! You don't need to be! |
Anonymous
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This is why with our first we didn't tell people the name, and we'll do the same with our second. Some co-workers, etc. I did, but my family who I knew would have a strong opinion, we didn't.
Once the baby is born and named, and they are told the name, only an asshole would make a big deal out of hating it to new parents. But before the baby is here, for some reason that gives people free reign to criticize it. |
Anonymous
| OP again, sorry I'm just embarrassed because I spelled "enunciate" wrong. |
Anonymous
| Telling ANYONE names before you've filled out the paperwork at the hospital is just a bad idea. |
Anonymous
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I can't understand this "rule". Are we obligated to love every single name?
Are we expected to be liars? I just don't get it. |
Anonymous
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OP, I can't believe your in-laws said that!!! I am quite sure that my in-laws don't like our DD's name. We did not tell anyone until after she was born but they told my husband that the first thing they did after getting off the phone was google her name. Not sure what they were looking for since my husband had told them the meaning, spelling, and origin. Oh well, what can you do? Plus, now they are in total love with the baby and I think the name is growing on them. |
Anonymous
| 10:41 No, you are not obligated to love every single name NOR or you obligated to say anything at all! |
Anonymous
| 10 49 even if the person choses not to comment the hormonal mom will say something about the "silence". there's just no way to please us. |
Anonymous
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FWIW OP I love the name! I've been looking for a Middle Name for DD and you just inspired me
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Anonymous
I was just thinking the same thing. We have a first name but I would love this for a middle name if we didn't have a restriction on the letter "R". |
Anonymous
| This is why we didn't tell anyone our name choices before DC was born. |