irrational fear of miscarriage

[Anonymous]

The background- I had a miscarriage at 6 weeks in my first pregnancy. I didn't have cramping just started to not feel pregnant and then started bleeding. Then I got pregnant again shortly after and had my son about a year ago. We are now expecting again and I can't seem to fight this feeling that I will miscarry and not know it. Does this sound stupid and or totally insane? I am 11 weeks and we had a scan at 7 weeks and saw the baby and heartbeat. I know this should make me feel more relaxed but I still feel worried that somehow something will go wrong and I won't know. Does this happen or am I too far along not to have major cramping/bleeding etc? Even with my pregnancy with my son, I was very nervous until after 13 weeks and the next scan. Urghh.. I hate this feeling. It makes it hard to feel excited. help... advice?

[Anonymous]

Very normal - I have had one miscarriage, one stillbirth and two healthy, albeit high risk pregnancies....every time - no exageration here - evey time I go to the bathroom I check TP for blood. It does help getting past (in terms of days / weeks) the previous loss so hopefully you will feel better in a fwe weeks once you are into the 2nd trimester.

Good luck.

[Anonymous]

well miscarriage risk goes down from 20 to under 2% according to the sono tech who did my sono once you see the heartbeat.

I'm doing acupuncture, it's helping me relax and makes me feel like I'm supporting the pregnancy in a good way. Maybe worth a shot for you too?

You're almost at your next scan too, aren't you! 11 weeks along is almost through the first trimester, so try to relax, send good vibes and thoughts to the baby.

[Anonymous]

OP here: Thanks for the words of encouragement. Yeah I have the nuchal screen next Thursday. I think sometimes I get even more anxiety right before a scan since you'll find out if something is wrong. I'll look into the acupuncture. I seriously need to just relax, it's just so hard.

[Anonymous]

I'll be right there with you - I had a miscarriage before having my son, and it wasn't until the 20 week ultrasound that I was hopeful that everything would be okay. Now trying for #2 I'm already worrying about the possibility again. I like the idea of acupuncture to try to say positive.