Beauty (real or enhanced) makes people more lovable?

[Anonymous]

It’s basic observation that beautiful people get more attention and it opens up more doors hence making them more successful in life. Do they get more love and affection as well?

[Anonymous]

I think it depends on the kind of attractive.

I'm attractive but not in a welcoming way, I think. I'm tall and have angular (and very symmetrical) features. I feel like my looks make people stay away. I often have to work hard to convince people I'm actually very warm! A lot of my friends have told me that when they met me they thought I was a snob but now they see I'm not like that at all. I think I just look like a snob. I look like the mean American woman who tries to steal Colin Firth from Bridget Jones! Oh well.

I know one woman who actually kind of is a snob, but people never think of her that way. She is very pretty but in a very different way from me. She is very short and has childlike features -- big eyes and forehead. I think people assume she's sweet and kind because she looks a little like a doll or a child. My personal experience is that she's kind of stuck up and sometimes not very nice.

People assume a lot about you from how you look. Sometimes it's accurate but often it's not. That's why I try not to judge people until I know them well enough to have some experience. I try to base my assessments of people, and decide who I will spend time and energy on, based on concrete experience and not first impressions. It works for me.

[Anonymous]

I think beauty oftentimes is a reflection of a person’s self-confidence, self-care, energy, intelligence, creativity, etc. Two people can look identical physically, but present differently. A lot of people perceived as beautiful, are actually quite plain if you stripped away outward choices (make-up, hair, clothing, demeanor, etc). Another person can be born on the good looking side, but let themselves go—fat, un groomed, poor fitting clothes, poor posture, etc. The whole package has to be looked at.

[Anonymous]

Agree with PP - very interesting! My good friend is petite blonde with a voluptuous figure. Guys tend to love her, girls (and incels) tend to hate her, type. I think people assume she is meek and mild mannered, but she is just the opposite, which catches people off guard, and can be rather entertaining to see in action. She is an arse kicker!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think beauty oftentimes is a reflection of a person’s self-confidence, self-care, energy, intelligence, creativity, etc. Two people can look identical physically, but present differently. A lot of people perceived as beautiful, are actually quite plain if you stripped away outward choices (make-up, hair, clothing, demeanor, etc). Another person can be born on the good looking side, but let themselves go—fat, un groomed, poor fitting clothes, poor posture, etc. The whole package has to be looked at.

This. I noticed it from when my kids were little. They got so much more affection from everyone when they were dressed cute and were happy babies.

I think anyone can be attractive and beautiful. You just have to work with what you have.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I think beauty oftentimes is a reflection of a person’s self-confidence, self-care, energy, intelligence, creativity, etc. Two people can look identical physically, but present differently. A lot of people perceived as beautiful, are actually quite plain if you stripped away outward choices (make-up, hair, clothing, demeanor, etc). Another person can be born on the good looking side, but let themselves go—fat, un groomed, poor fitting clothes, poor posture, etc. The whole package has to be looked at.

This. I noticed it from when my kids were little. They got so much more affection from everyone when they were dressed cute and were happy babies.

I think anyone can be attractive and beautiful. You just have to work with what you have.

+1 a clean, nicely dressed happy baby gets lavished with love and attention from caretakers. If the parents Love the baby enough to make sure she has a clean nose and brushed hair that “loved baby” energy attracts more care and attention. As an adult a happy person who is self-assured and takes good care of themselves attracts more loving attention than the person who looks like they don’t give a darn how they walked out of the house— and so why should anyone else?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think beauty oftentimes is a reflection of a person’s self-confidence, self-care, energy, intelligence, creativity, etc. Two people can look identical physically, but present differently. A lot of people perceived as beautiful, are actually quite plain if you stripped away outward choices (make-up, hair, clothing, demeanor, etc). Another person can be born on the good looking side, but let themselves go—fat, un groomed, poor fitting clothes, poor posture, etc. The whole package has to be looked at.

This. I noticed it from when my kids were little. They got so much more affection from everyone when they were dressed cute and were happy babies.

I think anyone can be attractive and beautiful. You just have to work with what you have.

+1 a clean, nicely dressed happy baby gets lavished with love and attention from caretakers. If the parents Love the baby enough to make sure she has a clean nose and brushed hair that “loved baby” energy attracts more care and attention. As an adult a happy person who is self-assured and takes good care of themselves attracts more loving attention than the person who looks like they don’t give a darn how they walked out of the house— and so why should anyone else?

This is so dicy because lots of very loved and cared for babies are not "nicely dressed." My child was very well cared for but had an uncontrollable cowlick her first 12 years of life and mostly wore hand me downs (some of them "boy clothes") because we didn't have a ton of money and wanted to spend it on more important things.

I mean, I don't think you are wrong -- I think people who look rich tend to get more attention and affection. But I disagree it's because these are people who lack self-confidence or don't take care of themselves. I think rich people can just afford to buy more expensive clothes, hair, etc. So I guess they look more loved and cared for. But they are actually just richer.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Agree with PP - very interesting! My good friend is petite blonde with a voluptuous figure. Guys tend to love her, girls (and incels) tend to hate her, type. I think people assume she is meek and mild mannered, but she is just the opposite, which catches people off guard, and can be rather entertaining to see in action. She is an arse kicker!

Voluptuous as in 10 to 20lbs overweight? I think I know her

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think beauty oftentimes is a reflection of a person’s self-confidence, self-care, energy, intelligence, creativity, etc. Two people can look identical physically, but present differently. A lot of people perceived as beautiful, are actually quite plain if you stripped away outward choices (make-up, hair, clothing, demeanor, etc). Another person can be born on the good looking side, but let themselves go—fat, un groomed, poor fitting clothes, poor posture, etc. The whole package has to be looked at.

This. I noticed it from when my kids were little. They got so much more affection from everyone when they were dressed cute and were happy babies.

I think anyone can be attractive and beautiful. You just have to work with what you have.

+1 a clean, nicely dressed happy baby gets lavished with love and attention from caretakers. If the parents Love the baby enough to make sure she has a clean nose and brushed hair that “loved baby” energy attracts more care and attention. As an adult a happy person who is self-assured and takes good care of themselves attracts more loving attention than the person who looks like they don’t give a darn how they walked out of the house— and so why should anyone else?

This is so dicy because lots of very loved and cared for babies are not "nicely dressed." My child was very well cared for but had an uncontrollable cowlick her first 12 years of life and mostly wore hand me downs (some of them "boy clothes") because we didn't have a ton of money and wanted to spend it on more important things.

I mean, I don't think you are wrong -- I think people who look rich tend to get more attention and affection. But I disagree it's because these are people who lack self-confidence or don't take care of themselves. I think rich people can just afford to buy more expensive clothes, hair, etc. So I guess they look more loved and cared for. But they are actually just richer.

I’m the PP you’re quoting and by “nicely dressed” for a baby I mean “clean” and “clothes fit” and at an outside extreme “matching”. My daughter goes to daycare in hand me downs every day because— though we could afford it— I refuse to spend money on clothes that get worn five or six times before outgrowing. So I didn’t mean expensive when I wrote my PP just so I’m clear.

[Anonymous]

I had a friend like your friend in medical school. She looked like a cupcake so imagine men’s surprise when she turned out to be a future orthopedic surgeon.

[Anonymous]

I think the MaryAnnes of the world get more love than the Gingers. Cute, smart, self deprecating and hard working will win.

[Anonymous]

IDK but love makes people more beautiful

[Anonymous]

Not more love. Maybe fake affection, more easy opportunities for sex, but that’s all.