Covid and nanny exposure

[Anonymous]

Our whole family went down with covid and we of course let our nanny know the minute we knew (I woke up not feeling well and took a rapid and was positive (I’m vaxed) and kids have no symptoms but tested positive on rapids as well). She’s vaxed and boosted and knew our risk level (she takes the kids to activities - we hid nothing from her as all our exposure was kid related). She is totally flipping out and just seems 100% shocked that this is happening and is texting things like “this is so so horrible. I can’t even process it” We offered to get her an Airbnb for a more comfortable isolation from her partner while she waited out her quarantine period and will of course (!!!) pay her regularly and wait until it’s safe for all for her to come back. Is there anything else we should do? It seems like she’s kind of shocked and angry at us which I find a bit confusing given omicron is everywhere, I of course feel bad we exposed her though and hope she won’t hold long term negative feelings over it

[Anonymous]

Is she vaccinated? If so, she doesn't even need to quarantine. The fact that she's so shocked suggests that she hasn't been paying any attention to the news at all, because omicron is EVERYWHERE. I don't think there's anything else you can do besides keep her updated on your symptoms and test results.

[Anonymous]

If she's vaccinated then I don't think she needs to quarantine. I'd order a bunch of tests from walmart and send them to her house though.

[Anonymous]

She’s vaxed and boosted as are we (adults, kids are too little). But I have a high fever and other symptoms so given we all have it she will likely go down too it seems

[Anonymous]

It sounds to me like you’re conflating shocked, scared, upset, and worried with anger. Her freaking out is totally within the bounds of reasonable. But it doesn’t sound like she’s actually expressed anger or is directing any of this AT you. My guess is you feel a little guilty (normal! But that doesn’t mean you did anything wrong!) and you’re projecting.

[Anonymous]

She’s scared. Give her a break, OP. Her job exposed her to covid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Our whole family went down with covid and we of course let our nanny know the minute we knew (I woke up not feeling well and took a rapid and was positive (I’m vaxed) and kids have no symptoms but tested positive on rapids as well). She’s vaxed and boosted and knew our risk level (she takes the kids to activities - we hid nothing from her as all our exposure was kid related). She is totally flipping out and just seems 100% shocked that this is happening and is texting things like “this is so so horrible. I can’t even process it” We offered to get her an Airbnb for a more comfortable isolation from her partner while she waited out her quarantine period and will of course (!!!) pay her regularly and wait until it’s safe for all for her to come back. Is there anything else we should do? It seems like she’s kind of shocked and angry at us which I find a bit confusing given omicron is everywhere, I of course feel bad we exposed her though and hope she won’t hold long term negative feelings over it

This omicron wave is a really tough mental shift. Cut her a break.

In terms of practicalities, you've done what you can. I like the idea of trying to get her rapid tests if you can.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She’s scared. Give her a break, OP. Her job exposed her to covid.

+1. You sound like you’re pissed she’s scared, OP.

[Anonymous]

OP I’m with you - she sounds melodramatic and annoying. For all you know she had an assymptomatic case and brought it to your house. Or nanny did in fact bring covid to our house and gave it to 2 of us last year. She admitted she had been out to eat with someone who had been exposed and then had symptoms the next am. I was annoyed but it kind of goes with the territory. If your nanny did not want to assume the risk then she shouldn’t be working as a nanny right now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP I’m with you - she sounds melodramatic and annoying. For all you know she had an assymptomatic case and brought it to your house. Or nanny did in fact bring covid to our house and gave it to 2 of us last year. She admitted she had been out to eat with someone who had been exposed and then had symptoms the next am. I was annoyed but it kind of goes with the territory. If your nanny did not want to assume the risk then she shouldn’t be working as a nanny right now.

What a stupid comment. Imagine if everybody who had a job decided not to have that job right now due to Covid. That would mean pretty much everybody who has a job not working in a cave all alone. C'mon. Everyone including nanny employers need to assume risk as well and we all need to have some consideration for each other (which you so clearly lack).

[Anonymous]

I don’t think she is angry - she is scared. But even if she is angry, that doesn’t mean you did anything wrong.

She probably doesn’t have great health insurance or savings, so this could be a bigger problem for her. It likely won’t be since she is boosted, but fear can make you forget statistics.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP I’m with you - she sounds melodramatic and annoying. For all you know she had an assymptomatic case and brought it to your house. Or nanny did in fact bring covid to our house and gave it to 2 of us last year. She admitted she had been out to eat with someone who had been exposed and then had symptoms the next am. I was annoyed but it kind of goes with the territory. If your nanny did not want to assume the risk then she shouldn’t be working as a nanny right now.

What a stupid comment. Imagine if everybody who had a job decided not to have that job right now due to Covid. That would mean pretty much everybody who has a job not working in a cave all alone. C'mon. Everyone including nanny employers need to assume risk as well and we all need to have some consideration for each other (which you so clearly lack).

+1.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP I’m with you - she sounds melodramatic and annoying. For all you know she had an assymptomatic case and brought it to your house. Or nanny did in fact bring covid to our house and gave it to 2 of us last year. She admitted she had been out to eat with someone who had been exposed and then had symptoms the next am. I was annoyed but it kind of goes with the territory. If your nanny did not want to assume the risk then she shouldn’t be working as a nanny right now.

You’re an idiot.

[Anonymous]

I agree with those bright enough to understand that your nanny is scared. I don’t know your relationship with her or her input on kids activities but she be regretting bringing your kids to those activities and be a little angry you forced the kids to participate.

It sucks getting sick from work. Especially getting covid if you’re super cautious in your personal life.

[Anonymous]

I understand being scared but she sounds ridiculous. I work for multiple families and have had my fair share of calls and texts letting me know a family was exposed and will test, etc. Unless you're WFH, being a nanny will have risks, spoiler alert.