Tell Her I Like Her or Keep Quiet?
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Anonymous
| My friend went through a bad breakup in the fall with a guy she had planned to marry. He decided he wasn’t ready to settle down or have kids after months of talking and making plans. She was devastated and took the breakup really hard. Naturally she came to me for comfort and one thing lead to another. We have been hooking up casually since then. We weren’t close when we started hooking up, but we have become since then. I have always thought she was hot, but never made a move because she was in a relationship. I feel like she is in a place where she is over her ex and I want to tell her I’m interested, but I also don’t want to mess up a good thing if she isn’t interested. Do I tell her or keep my mouth shut for now? |
Anonymous
| If ypu really like her then take a chance and make your move. |
Anonymous
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Let her know! Good luck!
Then let us know, lol! |
Anonymous
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Keep going with the flow, if it’s strictly a FWB thing right now you could add in some non sexual activities (dinner,brunch,hiking, whatever) then you’re at least on your way to a relationship. However, she may associate you with her last guy and will drop you when someone comes along that pushes her buttons.
You’re in a weird rebound/friendzone situation. Good luck |
Anonymous
OP here. We already hang outside of sex. We do dinners, hanging out, working out, etc. |
Anonymous
| Shut up and keep getting laid. Don’t screw it up. |
Anonymous
Agree. Be kind, be a gentleman, be understanding, but yeah, don't go making statements. Let your actions speak for now. |
Anonymous
Uh... yeah kind of sounds like you're dating. |
Anonymous
| Tell her. If she drops you over this it's her loss and one day you will see you dodged a bullet. |
Anonymous
| You are her rebound fling. Unwise of you to catch feelz. For all you know, if her ex snapped his fingers, she’d go running back to him. Also, as she was so recently devastated, it’s a good bet she doesn’t want to make herself vulnerable again. I’d just shut up and enjoy if I were you. |
Anonymous
| Isn’t it obviously that you are interested? If you are having out and hooking up then she knows you are interested. |
Anonymous
| Has she given you any signs that she’s interested in more? |
Anonymous
| It sounds like you’re already dating. Are you also dating other people? Is she? |
Anonymous
+1 I agree. If you two are sleeping together as well as doing extracurricular activities together - then it sounds like you guys are dating. If you would like to be exclusive 💘 - then yes, I strongly recommend you letting her know how you feel about her. Chances are the feeling is mutual considering it already sounds like you two are dating > just not exclusively. |
Anonymous
| Tell her you like her! |