Anyone feel that they have outgrown their spouse?

[Anonymous]

I don’t want to get divorced, but how do I manage?

[Anonymous]

You have to adjust your expectations, drop them, basically.

[Anonymous]

You form friendships/connections with people who are on the level in whatever aspect you might have outgrown your spouse.

I bet your spouse thinks that they have outgrown you in some aspect too.

[Anonymous]

Dont have kids or more than 1.

Have more friends and group dates and group vacations.

Just divorce him.

[Anonymous]

Op. We have a 10 and 8 year old. I basically get all my emotional satisfaction from my friends. Covid has felt isolating.

[Anonymous]

Yes I have put on about 30 pounds and so has dropped 10 pounds.

[Anonymous]

You haven’t outgrown him you just haven’t thought about it the right way, in 22 minutes you will feel much better about your situation.

https://youtu.be/-EvvPZFdjyk

[Anonymous]

How old were you when you married OP?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You haven’t outgrown him you just haven’t thought about it the right way, in 22 minutes you will feel much better about your situation.

https://youtu.be/-EvvPZFdjyk

Every relationship takes work. Where people feel they’ve outgrown their partner it’s because the person can’t or won’t do the work necessary to connect any more and it stagnates.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How old were you when you married OP?

30. We had a gap then, but it has only grown over the years.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You haven’t outgrown him you just haven’t thought about it the right way, in 22 minutes you will feel much better about your situation.

https://youtu.be/-EvvPZFdjyk

Every relationship takes work. Where people feel they’ve outgrown their partner it’s because the person can’t or won’t do the work necessary to connect any more and it stagnates.

I guess we both need to put in the work. Video was interesting. Maybe I’ll send it to him. Not sure he is as unhappy as I am.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t want to get divorced, but how do I manage?

Do you like someone else? Are you comparing him/her to others? If its not due to grass is greener on the other side, let your attention and support help him/her grow. If you are unhappy or depressed, work on yourself.

[Anonymous]

I feel this
I feel like I am his mom. Sucky dynamic

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op. We have a 10 and 8 year old. I basically get all my emotional satisfaction from my friends. Covid has felt isolating.

Your spouse should not be your everything. Isn’t that a lot to ask from one person? Lover, best friend, main emotional support, advisor, financial partner, roommate, etc.? Pick a couple and leave a couple to your other relationships.

[Anonymous]

No. My spouse is his own person- he has his own dreams, desires, friends, hobbies. He surprises me a lot- something he is good at that I didn’t know, something new he wants to try, a new friend that he made, a new place he wants to go.

He is very vivacious and occasionally exhausting but I love him very much. He gives me space and I give him space.

But even then he is not my only person. I have friends I talk to about things he doesn’t care about. He doesn’t care about politics, he doesn’t like to read, etc. I have other friends I can talk to about this things.