My DS has just changed overnight... help!
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Anonymous
| The teacher called. In the two weeks since our last parent/teacher conversation our kid has gone off the deep end. He was doing great this school year and then in the past two weeks he has failed two tests, deleted a classmates work online, posted strange meme related acroynyms, and group bullied another kid. He has been difficult at home, too. I have no idea what to do! He is ten and a super smart kid. He knows better. Why is this happening? How do I handle this? Ugh. |
Anonymous
| Hello puberty |
Anonymous
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It sounds like something happened alongside puberty. Will he talk to you about things?
Bullying? Trauma even? What does the teacher thing? I would try and get the school counselor involved because this sounds worth it. |
Anonymous
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This isn't out of the blue. Something happened. Figure out what happened and talk to your DS about it.
Here are some possibilities: - He's trying to impress a guy - He's trying to impress a girl - Someone did something to him and he's getting revenge Could be anything but as a parent, you gotta dig to see what it was and then address it. Good luck! |
Anonymous
| ...teacher think (not thing) |
Anonymous
| What's going on at home? Is he picking up on a rocky marriage, money problems, holiday stress, new sibling, overall anxiety, or not really engaging with him/no undivided attention? |
Anonymous
| I suspect that he is trying to impress the boys in his class. He is new to this school and the age is socially awkward. But it does NOT justify bullying or deleting work. I am so mad right now. I want to yell at him to cut it out but I know it's not going to solve anything. How do I handle this? |
Anonymous
He's not new to the school in the last two weeks, is he? What changed two weeks ago? Did anyone new come into his life? Did something change at home? Did the class get a new student or a new teacher? Did he start a new class or hobby? It sounds to me like something happened and he does not know how to deal with it and is acting out. |
Anonymous
You need to talk to him when you are both calm. For one thing, your assumptions may not be correct at all. You need to approach this with a listening-not-lecturing tone. Something changed for him and you need to figure out why. And you need HIM to explain why he did what he did and for him to come to his own conclusions that his behavior isn't what he wants it to be. He's having a hard time, so approach it that way. |
Anonymous
Another possibility is that he might be the type who tolerates too much and “explodes” over everything at once. |
Anonymous
Why is your reaction of only anger and not of concern? Dramatic changes of behavior are huge red flags. |
Anonymous
| What is he "posting" on per your original post? Does he have access to social media or a smartphone? If so, there's your first mistake. |
Anonymous
I forgot the +1. |
Anonymous
| Don’t let this go. I would follow up and get the school counselor involved too. |
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Okay I'm going to get flamed for this but here goes. Did your son just get vaccinated?
My normally sweet DS was an absolute freaking terror for about 10 days after his first shot. Like, mind bogglingly different than normal. He's totally fine now. I read a bit online and have seen that this can be a vaccine reaction in some kids (not specific to covid vax). |