How to stop/guide DD14 from jumping from boy to boy?

[Anonymous]

She started "dating in 6th grade, and it was cute and innocent etc. But since then Hasnt been on a break, it was boy to boy to boy. The last one being the worst experience since he was clearly sexually objectifying her and she was letting it happened and get used to it. Lots of coaching and therapy. and she claims she split with him only to find another boy right away.
How do I stop her? Everytime I say something, its almost like she is going the exact opposite direction.
How do I gently teach her to stop dating for a bit and get her bearings together?

[Anonymous]

You don’t.

[Anonymous]

Does she have a grownup man in her life, like dad, uncle, grandpa who can be a good influence? She clearly wants male attention.

Keep her busy - get her into sports, clubs, volunteering, babysitting, etc. So she has less and less time for boys.

[Anonymous]

Don't they all flit from relationship to relationship at this age? Relationships only last a week.

[Anonymous]

She’s still just a young child.

But as much as no one wants to think about it, eventually the dating could involve intercourse at some point.

While not a solution, have you considered making sure she is aware about condoms, OP? Soon it may even be time to make those available to her; it’s better than the alternatives.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like missing or absent Dad and/or not getting enough attention at home and/or very low self esteem or all of the above. And some girls turn into women who cannot be by themselves and always have to have a man even if he’s a piece of crap.

[Anonymous]

My sister was like that, and we had a present, involved dad. Some girls just start young and then never stop. My sister got married at 20.

[Anonymous]

Maybe she’s just good at oral sex.

[Anonymous]

You need to sit her down and have a very serious conversation with her about sexually transmitted diseases, pregnancies and sexual assault. Make her watch videos about it. She's in high school, or going there next year? There will be a whole lot of boys who might push her into stuff. Or maybe she won't need pushing. So put the fear of God into your little one, keep her busy, and try to arrange fun activities for her friend group to keep an eye on them (and see if the friend group is the part of the problem).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You need to sit her down and have a very serious conversation with her about sexually transmitted diseases, pregnancies and sexual assault. Make her watch videos about it. She's in high school, or going there next year? There will be a whole lot of boys who might push her into stuff. Or maybe she won't need pushing. So put the fear of God into your little one, keep her busy, and try to arrange fun activities for her friend group to keep an eye on them (and see if the friend group is the part of the problem).

You clearly don’t have high school aged children.

[Anonymous]

Make sure she has the hpv vaccine

Make sure she has access to medical care. Maybe take her to a gyn for a consult and make clear she can go see that doctor in the future if she ever wants to

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You need to sit her down and have a very serious conversation with her about sexually transmitted diseases, pregnancies and sexual assault. Make her watch videos about it. She's in high school, or going there next year? There will be a whole lot of boys who might push her into stuff. Or maybe she won't need pushing. So put the fear of God into your little one, keep her busy, and try to arrange fun activities for her friend group to keep an eye on them (and see if the friend group is the part of the problem).

You clearly don’t have high school aged children.

I do. DS is in 11th grade.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You need to sit her down and have a very serious conversation with her about sexually transmitted diseases, pregnancies and sexual assault. Make her watch videos about it. She's in high school, or going there next year? There will be a whole lot of boys who might push her into stuff. Or maybe she won't need pushing. So put the fear of God into your little one, keep her busy, and try to arrange fun activities for her friend group to keep an eye on them (and see if the friend group is the part of the problem).

You clearly don’t have high school aged children.

I do. DS is in 11th grade.

And you would accuse boys of pushing her into stuff? Wow.

[Anonymous]

You allowed this behaviour in 6th grade. I see this in my kid's class with girls and it isn't cute then.
That was the first mistake. Now you have to go back and fix what you started. Limit means of contact - set limits on cell phone use. No texting after 9pm. Monitor all cell phone use. Track where she goes and for how long. When she starts down the road of anything inappropriate, you step in. It is time to parent and not just let things happen.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You need to sit her down and have a very serious conversation with her about sexually transmitted diseases, pregnancies and sexual assault. Make her watch videos about it. She's in high school, or going there next year? There will be a whole lot of boys who might push her into stuff. Or maybe she won't need pushing. So put the fear of God into your little one, keep her busy, and try to arrange fun activities for her friend group to keep an eye on them (and see if the friend group is the part of the problem).

You clearly don’t have high school aged children.

I do. DS is in 11th grade.

And you would accuse boys of pushing her into stuff? Wow.

NP. Did the pp lie? There are teen boys that will try to push her sexually.