Both butches?

[Anonymous]

I’m a lesbian in the dating world again after a long hiatus (marriage, divorce etc) and noticed a problem.
1. I need to feel physical attraction. I’m not someone who can get to know someone I’m not attracted to and develop feelings. I’m attracted or I’m not. If I’m attracted, then I want to get to know the person, and what I learn will either make me want to get closer, or not.
2. I am androgynous-to-masculine presenting
3. The women I most attracted to are about androgynous-to-masculine
4. I get attention from other women but usually not the masculine ones I want attention from, they pretty much ignore me

It sucks. I think I understand why it is and what it comes from. But I’d sure like to know if there is a way around it other than wearing a sign around my neck that screams “I’m versatile!”

Any ideas, DCUM?

[Anonymous]

What about dating apps? Can’t you say what you’re interested in?

[Anonymous]

What about softening your looks a bit to attract the type of woman you like? If this is bad advice or offensive, I'm sorry. If I were striking out, I'd definitely change my tactics.

[Anonymous]

Agree that “butch seeks butch” is your best bet! Good luck.

-Femme Seeking Femme

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What about softening your looks a bit to attract the type of woman you like? If this is bad advice or offensive, I'm sorry. If I were striking out, I'd definitely change my tactics.

Not offended. And probably this is what I’m going to do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What about softening your looks a bit to attract the type of woman you like? If this is bad advice or offensive, I'm sorry. If I were striking out, I'd definitely change my tactics.

Not offended. And probably this is what I’m going to do.

Not too much. You want to be you.

[Anonymous]

Put something like "butch4butch" into your profile in a welcoming way, there are more of us out there than you think