If money were no object, would you have two nannies for two kids under two?

[Anonymous]

Hypothetical. Absolutely not me as I’m a SAHP.

But a friend who works out of the house has kids my kids ages, 2.5 and almost 1, and she hired a second nanny for the new baby during the day. I see so many benefits to this arrangement as the older kid gets attention and age appropriate play as does the baby. The baby doesn’t get hauled to pick up at preschool like mine does. In some ways it seems more natural as there are two parents at night and weekends.

The downside is that the kids are not really learning to wait and be siblings. I definitely see benefits in my older child helping with the little one. And the little one adores him.

WDYT?

[Anonymous]

No I wouldn’t..I can see this being an issue for the nannies to be honest. Are they going to stop the baby nanny when he reaches a certain age?

[Anonymous]

Yes and no. If I had all the money in the world I would stay home with a nanny for the above reasons! And maybe get a part time nanny to give our nanny more time with our oldest. But a nanny each doesn’t sound healthy for the kids.

[Anonymous]

I’d actually get a weekend nanny, a chef and full-time housekeeper who did laundry. That would free me up to spend more time with my kids and husband.

[Anonymous]

It's no object for us and we only ever had one nanny. The older one was not in preschool until age 4, so shifting the younger one's nap earlier was not a big deal.

[Anonymous]

No I wouldn’t. I want my kids to feel like siblings, not two kids being raised separately.

[Anonymous]

If money were no object, I'd stay home with my kids (which I do) but I'd hire a housekeeper, cook and landscaper (well, not now with covid). It does make sense though as each kid will get their needs met.

[Anonymous]

Same as other posters. I’d hire a chef for all meals, full time housekeeper plus laundry, and someone to “run the household.” Then I’d spend my own energy and time on me and my family. Two nannies is great in theory… what if they end up spending their time hanging out and ignoring the kids? What if they have different styles/tasks/skills and one ends up resenting the other? Most importantly, will the kids expect to have individualized attention at all times? Will the kids nor socialize with each other? Etc etc.

[Anonymous]

No. I believe in being one unit for as long as possible, because as you said, there are immense life-time benefits to being with siblings. If there were more kids, perhaps.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If money were no object, I'd stay home with my kids (which I do) but I'd hire a housekeeper, cook and landscaper (well, not now with covid). It does make sense though as each kid will get their needs met.

Those things are also paid for … kobidy has 2 nanny’s but dies their own landscaping

[Anonymous]

If money was no object, we wouldn’t work.

Id never have a weekend or evening nanny. I love spending time parenting. Someone to clean up before I get home would be nice, but once I’m home I want to be hands on and in charge. Sometimes it’s even nice when my husband travels so I can soak up time with them alone on my own half assed schedule.

[Anonymous]

If money weren’t an object I wouldn’t have any childcare — but I’m deep in baby fever at the moment and it’s entirely possible I would be over SAHM-ing quicker than my kids outgrew it. But honestly I can see the benefit of multiple nannies — there are some little things with parenting that are just so much easier with four hands.

[Anonymous]

Unless it was super routine, I would think it would be really confusing and unpredictable to the young kids who have no sense of time, duration, or the like.
Too much a revolving door of caretakers including Mom herself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Unless it was super routine, I would think it would be really confusing and unpredictable to the young kids who have no sense of time, duration, or the like.
Too much a revolving door of caretakers including Mom herself.

Why would it be confusing? Two nannies come every weekday at 9 when Mom and Dad go to work and two nannies leave at 5 PM when Mom and Dad come home. No one is revolving.

I have a friend who has two nannies for three kids and it works out fine.

[Anonymous]

No. Two people to manage and hire and replace. Two sets of taxes. It's a pain. If your nanny can't handle two, you need a better nanny. I might consider a babysitter on occasion if there were a specific logistical reason.