likelihood of m/c?

[Anonymous]

We have a DC that is 3 1/2 yo. I had a m/c last summer, and am now almost 5 weeks PG again. Anyone know anything about the likelihood of another m/c? Or is it the same with every pregnancy? We have no idea what happened to the last one - just that we had a weak heartbeat and smaller-than-normal sac at 6.5 weeks, and by 8.5 weeks, it was gone - so I suspect some sort of abnormality. My PG with #1 was totally normal and uneventful.

Thanks. I'm just so nervous about this one.

[Anonymous]

I am in almost same boat as you. Have a DC (no m/cs before that pregnancy). Preg in Nov and miscarried early. Now will be 5 weeks pregnant on Friday and am monitoring every symptom (which isn't many) like crazy. I keep telling myself that this one will be OK, but I find myself saying things to my huband like, "If I'm pregnant in May..."

So just empathy from me.

[Anonymous]

I know how you feel. And while I don't know the odds exactly, I DO know that they are really in your favor for everything to be OK with this pregnancy. I was in the same boat - uneventful DC#1, missed m/c at 8.5 weeks with pregnancy #2, and with pregnancy #3 am now weeks away from delivering my second.

So just try to ride out the uncertainty of that initial waiting period. And maybe talk about it with folks. If you open up about your m/c experience, you may be surprised at the number of women you meet who share similar stories. While I had abstractly known that miscarriages were quite common, actually hearing other women tell me personally about their experience (and then about their subsequent healthy pregnancies) really drove it home for me, and helped me have faith that things would be OK when we got pregnant again.

[Anonymous]

I m/c at 5 weeks with #1, then went on to have very easy pregnancy with #2. TTC now. Drs tell me the first m/c was probably nothing and had I not been TTC I probably wouldn't have realized I was pregnant. Guess it's really common - used to just be called a late period. Still doesn't stop me from worrying about the next pregnancy....

[Anonymous]

Thanks everyone. To the 21:23 poster - I keep doing the same thing! I think it a lot "Well, if I'm still pregnant in August... then..." which I know isn't productive. My husband says he won't worry about anything until we get our first u/s at the end of the month. He's right in the sense that there's nothing we can do anyway, but I do still think he experiences this very differently from me - especially in that he just doesn't feel connected until there is something he can see/touch, you know? Anyway... I appreciate the comments.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am in almost same boat as you. Have a DC (no m/cs before that pregnancy). Preg in Nov and miscarried early. Now will be 5 weeks pregnant on Friday and am monitoring every symptom (which isn't many) like crazy. I keep telling myself that this one will be OK, but I find myself saying things to my huband like, "If I'm pregnant in May..."

So just empathy from me.

OP here again... I just have to add, like you, I am too monitoring every symptom. I'm even still temping. I have had a minor bit of acne, which sent me into a panic on Monday, b/c I always break out right before a period. But it could also be the result of me stopping the use of acne medication and my AHA. Argh! So nice to hear someone else out there is feeling exactly the same way!

[Anonymous]

21:23 here ... yeah, it's hard. My appt isn't until almost 8 weeks. I got morning sickness between 6-7 weeks with my first pregnancy (the one resulting in my DC), and I'm hoping I will get it sooner with this one, just to reassure myself.

[Anonymous]

OP here again... I just have to add, like you, I am too monitoring every symptom. I'm even still temping. I have had a minor bit of acne, which sent me into a panic on Monday, b/c I always break out right before a period. But it could also be the result of me stopping the use of acne medication and my AHA. Argh! So nice to hear someone else out there is feeling exactly the same way!

FWIW, acne is a pregnancy symptom for me! Both with my last pregnancy (I now have an 18 month old), and with this pregnancy (currently 13 weeks), I have broken out like a teenager at around 6 weeks. Combine that with the lack of acne medicine, and I'm not looking too pretty!
Good luck with everything!

[Anonymous]

5 days late and no BFP yet, but I'm totally broken out, too - your post made me laugh b/c I'm hoping it's being caused by a pregnancy....!

[Anonymous]

OP, I am right there with you. Have an almost 3 yr old DD, problem free pg the first time around and a m/c last summer- a missed miscarriage that was discovered at my 12 wk appt. I'm 11.5 weeks now and the wait to get to my 12 wk visit to see if everything is still okay is killing me. my symptoms wane all the time (and did with my 1st healthy pg) so that just makes me more neurotic. I think the odds are on our side but it does not make this waiting game any easier. good luck to you.

[Anonymous]

My first pregnancy was a miscarriage at 7 wks. I went on to get pregnant with a normal pregnancy, but scared to death through the first tri. I understand that one miscarriage does not predict a second. A second, however, may indicate a problem.

I got pregnant in December and miscarried Jan/Feb. We are now trying again. I don't expect a problem with miscarriage because I had a previous one, except that I turned 43 just after I miscarried. So, I expect egg age to be a factor. At least I know I can get pregnant.