Is ENM, poly, or swinger low class?

[Anonymous]

Seems like it from the people i was told who participate but then I believe a pair were also swinging lawyers.

[Anonymous]

Nope. Not for millennials at least. I have a VC friend who moves in high worth circles, everyone is poly nowadays. It’s a thing. Getting in touch with your sexual truth apart from what society dictates. Like changing your gender label or what not.

[Anonymous]

Yes, and I am a millennial. And they're all f ucking crazy, too

[Anonymous]

Definitely. Trashy

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, and I am a millennial. And they're all f ucking crazy, too

This, millennial here. Never met an ENM/poly person who was emotionally stable.

[Anonymous]

Low-class is having a bunch of drama around the arrangement. Simply having the arrangement, without drama, seems more faux-enlightened hippie than trashy.

[Anonymous]

Rich people just have affairs the old fashioned way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Rich people just have affairs the old fashioned way.

+1

High class people are assholes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Nope. Not for millennials at least. I have a VC friend who moves in high worth circles, everyone is poly nowadays. It’s a thing. Getting in touch with your sexual truth apart from what society dictates. Like changing your gender label or what not.

No they are not. This entire post is a bunch of crap. Answering the OP, yes it is.

[Anonymous]

DH and I are both doctors and swing. I know quite a few people who swing and are pretty solidly middle class/upper middle class.

[Anonymous]

These are not all the same thing. My wife and I are ENM but we don’t swing. And we don’t think of ourselves as poly because it’s not part of our identity. She just has someone else in her life and so do I.
The people who are proudly “kitchen table poly” are big time drama, IME.

[Anonymous]

They tend to be massively overweight, which is a lower class quality.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:These are not all the same thing. My wife and I are ENM but we don’t swing. And we don’t think of ourselves as poly because it’s not part of our identity. She just has someone else in her life and so do I.
The people who are proudly “kitchen table poly” are big time drama, IME.

If you each have one "someone else" in your lives you are both having affairs. Not judging it but saying the fashionable labels to make it seem like it's something else are silly. You are both having affairs, and each of you is aware the other is having an affair. There's no need to gin up sparkly new names for every "arrangement." I guess "affair" to some indicates "my spouse doesn't know, it's a secret and it would hurt my spouse," but that is not necessarily the connotation in all places and through all of history. There have always been couples where both married partners also had lovers on the side and knew about it. Just embrace the fact you're cool with each other having affair partners.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nope. Not for millennials at least. I have a VC friend who moves in high worth circles, everyone is poly nowadays. It’s a thing. Getting in touch with your sexual truth apart from what society dictates. Like changing your gender label or what not.

No they are not. This entire post is a bunch of crap. Answering the OP, yes it is.

+1 to PP above. No, it is NOT true that "everyone is poly nowadays."

There are some posters on these threads who come back over and over to say variations on that theme and they love to state it as if it's indisputable truth. But they can't produce any reputable facts showing that. They come here to promote the idea of poly and to make themselves feel better for wanting it--though I doubt they actually participate in any poly relationships in real life themselves.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Rich people just have affairs the old fashioned way.

+100. European here and pretty much everyone is having discrete affairs.