Is getting under someone really the quickest way to get over someone?
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Anonymous
| Who you had been with for more than 5 yrs? 1.5 yr have passed and when I'm not dating I start feeling both love and anger at the ex I had been with more than 5 yrs. Haven't slept with anyone yet. |
Anonymous
| Yes |
Anonymous
| Yes. |
Anonymous
| No. It only helps if the sex is out of this world. Sex with my ex was really amazing, so sex with others hasn't helped yet. |
Anonymous
| You haven'y slept with anyone for a year and a half? I think we need your age, locale, and gender to understand the aftual situation. |
Anonymous
| Oh heck yes! |
Anonymous
I will say I'm a woman and? |
Anonymous
| So the f u c king actually erases any feelings of love for the ex? |
Anonymous
| It’s a distraction, which helps. A fun distraction. |
Anonymous
| I wouldn’t sleep with someone random expecting that to happen, no. I think getting over someone happens when you do the work to figure out how to treat yourself well. Whatever feels like love to you, you do it. Nice meals? Flowers? Special trip? Time with friends? Spa day? Indulge yourself. If someone is offering you great sex and that makes you feel wonderful about yourself, by all means. Whatever makes you understand you don’t need the other person to have joy. |
Anonymous
| Palate cleanser. Just don’t expect it to turn into a relationship. I picked a guy that I would never have considered inviting to brunch with my friends. Sex was amazing, though. |
Anonymous
| Why not get back together with him? |
Anonymous
This. Generally, no, it does not help. Only if the sex is amazing, which is rare. Woman here. |
Anonymous
Why the judgment? I was married and did not have sex for 5 years at one clip and 3 years another stretch…in my 30s. A year and a half is not a long time if you are a single woman not it a relationship. (Before marriage I never went more than 3 months without but could easily see going a year and a half if I really was not feel it). I kind of forced it with my ex husband after a bad breakup thinking getting under someone would help. It did not. It was never good really and ended up getting married. Dumb. OP should take her time. |
Anonymous
| Only in this permissive, anything goes, society. |