Venting.

[Anonymous]

Just sitting here in the middle of the tww and can just feel myself getting more and more down. We are on month 5 of ttc and I just know it's going to be BFN again. I've used the stupid Ov-Watch. I've read Taking Charge of Your Fertility. I've peed on OPKs -- and couldn't get a positive most of the time even though the ov-watch said I was ovulating. If this month doesn't work out, we'll head to the DR. for tests and I'll start temping. I'm 35, he's 40. I know many have taken longer to get pregnant and I know I shouldn't complain. But, it never dawned on me this was going to be an issue (I know, stupid). And, well, it's just hard not knowing how long this cycle of excitement, disappointment and depression will continue. Blah.

[Anonymous]

yes, its so very very hard, i'm sorry you are going through this!

temping has helped me the most (the OPK's did nothing for me) and made our timing a lot better than it had been.

hugs and thoughts and good luck with baby making!

[Anonymous]

Thanks! I know many people have been at it way longer than me, so I try not to get too down. Sometimes it helps to share with others and to receive advice. Thank you!

[Anonymous]

I have conceived 4 (miscarried once). I never had a + OPK - temping was the answer for me.

I was able to conceive DC #2 and #3 (13 weeks pregnant right now) when having really long, irregular cycles due to a combination of breastfeeding and waking up at night with a teething toddler because I was temping.

Throw the OPKs away - and start temping today. Use a software that will chart it for you. I found that easier for interpreting results. You do not need to purchase a special thermometer - I used a regular digital one that I purchased from CVS. BUT I do recommend one that does not take long to get a temp. Sitting in bed with a thermometer in your mouth for 20 seconds feels like a lifetime when you have a toddler screaming for you and your husband is in the shower.

[Anonymous]

I react during 2ww exactly like you do. Sometimes I feel depressed, anxious and angry because I feel that my period is coming and I am experiencing a complete distress over another wasted cycle. Only I've been trying to conceive for almost 3 years now (with a miscarriage after one year).

So my point is that I know what you are going through and my advice is to develop an "action" plan. E.g., Step 1. Go do tests with RE; Step 2. Send your husband to do a sperm test; Step 3. Try acupucture, etc. Trust me, once you have that plan and go do all these things towards achieving your goal, it will make you feel in control. Good luck!

[Anonymous]

Call the RE and make and appointment. It may take months to get in. Just tell the Doc you have been trying for a year, so your insurance covers the testing. Don't mess around and make your self crazy.

[Anonymous]

I could never get a positive on an OPK regular stick, but between temping and the Clear Blue Fertility monitor (which was a pricey investment, though), I could pinpoint my ovulation date.

[Anonymous]

OP, I was just like you. At 32, I thought it would be no problem. The first several months of BFNs were so demoralizing. I charted, read TCOYF, tried to OPKs. Nothing. But then, suddenly, after about 5 months of trying, it worked. We got pregnant. Sadly, that pregnancy ended in a miscarriage at 11 weeks. After a couple of months, we started trying again. And yesterday, unexpectedly, a BFP. We're excited, but scared, and just hoping this one goes well.

All this just to say, there are SO many ups and downs. What you are feeling is OK. I know the waiting is awful. The disappointments are devastating, but the joy is so big. It's a wacky undertaking, all of it. Just try to be gentle on yourself and your DH, and don't give up hope. Good luck, OP.

PS I agree with the other posters, and I also wanted to recommend Preseed. I think it really helped us.

[Anonymous]

If you do temp, listen to 9:44 - find a fast thermometer. The biggest reason I've neglected temping this time around (although swearing I will on next cycle if i"m not pregnant yet) is that it seems like it takes forever! How silly is that?! But with DD I temped and made DH have sex the morning before work when I noticed a spike - I know it happened then b/c a friend was in town all week except that morning (fate) - and it worked!

[Anonymous]

TTC can be so hard! Just keep trying, keep your spirits up, and if in a few months it's still not working, you can think about seeing an RE. There is so much help out there that you WILL get pregnant one way or the other! 35 is not too old!

[Anonymous]

OP here. Wow, I am just really blown away but the responses and the support. I pulled out my TCOYF book yesterday and saw the software CD pasted to the inside back page. I had overlooked that before. I started reading again and will order some Pre-Seed. AF is expected on 4/19. So, if AF comes, I am hoping to be ready to roll with temping and charting and pre-seeding. It's good to hear the OPK's didn't work for everyone because I was driving myself crazy. And I had the ones that you have to pee into a cup and then dip them in - so here I am walking down the hall at work with my plastic cup to the bathroom (empty cup mind you). The Ov-Watch I think is worthless, at least for me. I've used it for 3 cycles now and nothing. It always indicates fertile day 1 on CD 14. We have been going by those dates and BD'ing and I even laid in bed with my legs on the stupid wall for 20 minutes each time this cycle. (I felt stupid but at this point why not try it?). My OB/GYN told me to come in around CD 26-28 of this next cycle if AF comes on 4/19 for hormone tests. Does anyone know what they will be testing? Anyway, thanks everyone. I really do appreciate it.

[Anonymous]

Since this was a vent about the two week wait I had to post, it's a little off topic though. We have been trying for 8 months, DS #1 was almost instantaneous conception. So after 8 months of BFN, I am so nervous to pee on the sticks! Today I am 2 days late and finally broke down and went and bought two tests. I ran home just now with a full bladder and let it rip. Well how freaking annoying the little book symbol (it's a digital) came up. Now I have to wait till I can pee again! FML

[Anonymous]

16:18 poster here! Moving over to the Expectant Moms forum! Just got the BFP!

[Anonymous]

OP here. Congrats!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Call the RE and make and appointment. It may take months to get in. Just tell the Doc you have been trying for a year, so your insurance covers the testing. Don't mess around and make your self crazy.

Am I the only one who finds this unethical? I mean, why should insurance cover people who...say...have only been trying a few months. Seems to me that this kind of advice is what will eventually end insurance coverage for all infertility treatments.