Did you try to get back with an ex who was already dating or in a relationship?

[Anonymous]

Did it work? What did you do? Only reply if you tried.

[Anonymous]

No but ex who is with someone else is trying to get back with me.

[Anonymous]

Like married? Hell no

[Anonymous]

Kinda, but I did not know that he was already dating someone else. In fact, he was dating someone that he had terribly mocked to me when we were together. When I broke up with him, she was there to offer him comfort. Four months later, I was in bad place emotionally and reached out to him just as friends. After a couple weeks of daily hours long phone calls, I thought that maybe I could overlook his flaws after all. I told him that I wanted to give us another chance. He told me that he was involved with this girl that he always made fun of. And he said he had to think about breaking up with her to be with me again. I don’t know if he actually did think about it, but we never discussed it again. I don’t recall if we talked again the next day or not, but we definitely stopped talking for a couple years afterwards. And he married her within a year or two. Roughly three decades later, they are still married. On one hand, he chose her over me. On the other hand, all of the reasons I broke up with him, she has had to deal with in their marriage. So it did not work. We are friends now, but have never discussed that I tried to get back with him or that he used to make fun of this girl before he married her.

I think it might be easier to wait in the wings and try to make a rebound into something permanent than to try to repair what has been broken.

[Anonymous]

In college I did. I dated this hottie who had a boyfriend from "back home". We dated in the fall, then she decided to get back with her old boyfriend. After spring break she started talking to me and admitted she wanted to get together. We hooked up all spring behind her boyfriend's back. It was great. Amazing sex. I never told her I wanted her back in the spring, just happens she made the first move.

Playing hard to get or pretending like you don't care...it works.