How to be the best sister and support in this situation

[Anonymous]

I am the younger sister. I have three children (plus two addition miscarriages). DD2 was conceived through IUI. So while my journey has not terrible, there has been some heartache. My older sister started IVF a year-ish ago. She had four retrievals that yielded one embryo and one mosaic. She is having her transfer in early November.

I want to be super supportive. I have tried this whole time to be interested and here if she wants to talk but not too involved. What would be best? Should I send good wishes on transfer day? Should I try to entertain and distract her during 2ww or leave her alone?

We are super close but she is very private during this journey and I want to respect and support her with that. What would be best? What would be worst?

[Anonymous]

Can you ask her how you can best support her? Perhaps send her a text and see if she wants to plan a day trip somewhere for distraction or wants to have her space?

Let her guide you in how you are supportive. And be open to the idea that what she says today may be different as the transfer gets closer or during the 2WW.

Best of luck to you and her!

[Anonymous]

I’d tell her as retrieval day approaches that I’m available to talk or just listen or be her cheerleader or distract her or whatever she needs, any time, and that I’ll take my cues from her and only mention it if she brings it up first, to respect her boundaries.

[Anonymous]

Agree with above posters. Ask her what she needs. Pamper her on transfer day.

[Anonymous]

Check your AMH and if its decent and you're willing offer to donate eggs if her transfer doesn't work

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Check your AMH and if its decent and you're willing offer to donate eggs if her transfer doesn't work

[Anonymous]

Don’t send her pics of your kids - seems obvious but that would be very triggering….try to give distance as much as possible and let her reach you or let her know that she can reach you