Preschool Birthday Party Gifts

[Anonymous]

How much would you spend on a gift for a preschool classmate’s birthday party, and what types of things would you buy? Our DD is getting to the age where this starts to become a thing, and we aren’t sure what is reasonable/expected.

[Anonymous]

Where do you live and what kind of preschool is it?

[Anonymous]

$20

I try to be consumables - craft supplies, outdoor chalk, bubbles. No play Doug, nothing with a million pieces. Nothing too gendered/violent.

If I know the kid/family, then I buy what they will like even if I don’t want it for my kids. (Barbies, I am looking at you!)

[Anonymous]

$15/$20 I would ask the parents for suggestions when you rsvp.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Where do you live and what kind of preschool is it?

+1. Daycare is very different than one of the fancy preschools.

[Anonymous]

$20. DD is 4 and Calico Critters have been a popular gift to give for age range.

[Anonymous]

$15-20. If I throw a party, I say no gifts on the invitation and anyone who doesn't is tacky AF.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Where do you live and what kind of preschool is it?

+1. Daycare is very different than one of the fancy preschools.

It is not a super fancy preschool, more like daycare.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:$15-20. If I throw a party, I say no gifts on the invitation and anyone who doesn't is tacky AF.

Miss Manners would say otherwise.

We always say No Gifts, but it's in direct opposition to formal etiquette rules.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Where do you live and what kind of preschool is it?

+1. Daycare is very different than one of the fancy preschools.

It is not a super fancy preschool, more like daycare.

$20 to $25.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:$15-20. If I throw a party, I say no gifts on the invitation and anyone who doesn't is tacky AF.

Miss Manners would say otherwise.

We always say No Gifts, but it's in direct opposition to formal etiquette rules.

Formal etiquette doesn’t apply anymore. Gifts were never mentioned nor expected at a party. That’s why showers were different.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:$15-20. If I throw a party, I say no gifts on the invitation and anyone who doesn't is tacky AF.

Miss Manners would say otherwise.

We always say No Gifts, but it's in direct opposition to formal etiquette rules.

Formal etiquette doesn’t apply anymore. Gifts were never mentioned nor expected at a party. That’s why showers were different.

+1

The fact that miss manners is still being cited in 2021....

[Anonymous]

I had the same Q so thanks OP!

I have been doing books in the. $15-20 range as a PP suggested, with return gift receipt in case they already have it. And DD is excited to make a "card" whatever that looks like

[Anonymous]

I like to pick up things as I see them on sale- I choose things I think my own kid would like.

Right now, Amazon has several preschool games- Candy Land, Chutes and Ladders etc.- on sale for under $10. And some play doh toys for $10-$15.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:$15-20. If I throw a party, I say no gifts on the invitation and anyone who doesn't is tacky AF.

Miss Manners would say otherwise.

We always say No Gifts, but it's in direct opposition to formal etiquette rules.

Formal etiquette doesn’t apply anymore. Gifts were never mentioned nor expected at a party. That’s why showers were different.

+1

The fact that miss manners is still being cited in 2021....

There are plenty of people who follow etiquette rules Perhaps check out this podcast by two descendants of Emily Post; they do a great job of explaining the thinking behind the old rules and adapting them for modern norms: https://emilypost.com/podcast/awesome-etiquette-podcast