Irrationally angry with sibling

[Anonymous]

Because a family visit/reunion has to be canceled because sibling's spouse got COVID. Doesn't matter that the rest of us siblings and their families have had zero contact with this sibling and thus zero chance of us having it or giving it to mom. Nope, we can't get together at all now because the favored sibling won't be able to attend.

I should add that the favored sibling and her spouse have been doing the bare minimum of precautions, traveling all the time, seeing friends all the time, no masks.s We might get a visit in the spring.

And while rationally I know anyone can get COVID even if vaccinated ( and yes we're all vaccinated. This is so on-brand for her I'm finding it hard to feel any sympathy.

[Anonymous]

Why does the event have to be canceled?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why does the event have to be canceled?

Technically it doesn't, but because sibling and her family can't participate now, mom has decided the trip is canceled.

[Anonymous]

Go without Mom. You are an adult yes?

[Anonymous]

Save a little for your mom.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Go without Mom. You are an adult yes?

Mom was coming out to visit us all, but now isn't coming because of 1 sibling.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Save a little for your mom.

Angry with her too

[Anonymous]

This has nothing to do with COVID. This is a crappy mom problem. I bet that mom and sibling have done similar things in the past. Your mom is not that great. Go to therapy about it. I'm sorry. It hurts. Been there.

[Anonymous]

This is misdirected anger because you don’t feel safe directing where it really belongs - your mom. You are livid that she so thoroughly favors your sister and has so little regard for you that you aren’t worth coming out to see if your sister isn’t part of the mix.

You have every right to be angry. Yo should be angry. But your anger is only going to consume you and unless you direct it where it belongs.

[Anonymous]

Can the rest of you - who hopefully like each other - still continue with the reunion? It sounds like it might be more fun without mom and her obvious favored child and spouse?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Can the rest of you - who hopefully like each other - still continue with the reunion? It sounds like it might be more fun without mom and her obvious favored child and spouse?

OP, you guys should totally do this. Put moms in her place by showing her you do not need her around to be a family. Don’t let her ruin your good time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Can the rest of you - who hopefully like each other - still continue with the reunion? It sounds like it might be more fun without mom and her obvious favored child and spouse?

OP, you guys should totally do this. Put moms in her place by showing her you do not need her around to be a family. Don’t let her ruin your good time.

+1. This is exactly what you all should do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is misdirected anger because you don’t feel safe directing where it really belongs - your mom. You are livid that she so thoroughly favors your sister and has so little regard for you that you aren’t worth coming out to see if your sister isn’t part of the mix.

You have every right to be angry. Yo should be angry. But your anger is only going to consume you and unless you direct it where it belongs.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is misdirected anger because you don’t feel safe directing where it really belongs - your mom. You are livid that she so thoroughly favors your sister and has so little regard for you that you aren’t worth coming out to see if your sister isn’t part of the mix.

You have every right to be angry. Yo should be angry. But your anger is only going to consume you and unless you direct it where it belongs.

+1

Agreed. Sorry you’re in this dynamic, OP.

[Anonymous]

Let me guess: mom was paying?