If your kid started K at a school where they knew nobody...

[Anonymous]

... how long until they started making friends? Like the stories about what so-and-so played with them at recess and wanting to meet up with other kids on weekends?

[Anonymous]

Late winter/spring. It takes a while for school friendships to sort out. Totally normal.

[Anonymous]

Mine hadn’t been in person since pre-K 3 and is friends with the kids he sits with- took about 3-4 days before he started talking about marrying one of them and the other being his friend.

[Anonymous]

Oh and those Armenta who he knew from Pre-K 3

[Anonymous]

My kid knew no one when he entered K and we started hearing specific names pretty quickly, but play dates and meet ups took longer. I let him play on the playground with classmates after school and doing rec soccer helped, too.

[Anonymous]

Immediately. DS started in a private school that had a preschool and preK so the kids knew each other and DS was the new kid. He did great and talked about friends on his first day. He was invited to a play date that first week and a birthday party that weekend.

[Anonymous]

We are in this now. Took a week but now we are hearing about new kids and I am relieved. DD has an oct bday so inviting those few plus some old ones to her bday has helped ease in

[Anonymous]

A week for names of kids and playing with the same ones at recess. Longer for wanting playdates with specific kiss. But my DD is pretty extroverted and will come up to anyone on the playground and ask if she can play with them.

[Anonymous]

Friends during the school day takes about a week. Playdates maybe a month or two. It really just depends on if the parents of the kids your child likes are the type to reach out for playdates, or are they busy with structured activities or have a lot of kids so not much time for playdates.

Try playing on playgrounds near the school on the weekends, you may find some people.

[Anonymous]

Kindergartener started naming a few names after about two weeks. Had her first playdate with one of those kids today, but I was proactive about connecting with that kid's parents to set something up.

[Anonymous]

First few weeks of K, DS would say he like played with "everyone " at recess, didn't give me specific names. Then after a few weeks he started to name specific ppl he played with.

[Anonymous]

My oldest didn’t know anyone and…three days?

My youngest has preschool friends but made new friends no issues. Most kids make friends really quickly at that age but it takes time to jump to play dates depending on how friendly the school drop off /pick up is (if you meet parents on the playground it’s easier)

[Anonymous]

I would say about a two week adjustment.

[Anonymous]

Mine started K equivalent at a school overseas where the native language was not English. He made a friend who also spoke some English week 2. By the end of week 3 or 4, he knew all the names of his classmates and played with a couple of them when the other English speaking kid was absent.

[Anonymous]

Thanks, sounds like we are relatively normal then. DS has known many of the neighborhood kids for his whole life, from child care / preschool, park & pool, etc. But the core group of 8-10 kids have all scattered for K.

DS definitely talked about missing his preschool friends early on. By about week 2, he’d talk about other kids by name. There’s one particular kid he talks about a lot and wants to invite over, which I’ll do.

It’s probably just me being over-sensitive when we’ve gone from seeing friends all the time to him saying, “X is my only friend at school.” The teacher says he’s played with everyone, so I guess we’re on the right track.