Abusive DH doing a slow fade for DC

[Anonymous]

Divorced an abusive spouse whose relationship with our kid was significantly less abusive and had a lot of positives. ExDH is doing a slow fade. Will not call unless called, not visiting much, lives away, wants to start a new family. How does one handle such stupidity?

[Anonymous]

Never say a negative word.

Let them fade away.

As hard as this will be for your DC they will be way better off.

Why in the world would you want them to have a relationship with an abusive person??

[Anonymous]

-Be there for your kid.
-Listen to them.
-Ask them how they’re feeling without commenting on the actions by the other parent. Don’t offer explanations for their crappy behavior. Just affirm what they’re feeling: “You sound really upset that your dad didn’t call for your birthday. That makes total sense that you’d feel that way. I’m so sorry.”
-If your child wants to talk with the other parent to share how they’re feeling, it’s fine to offer to role play with them.
-Look into therapy to help your kid navigate this.

[Anonymous]

This doesn't sound like a problem. He is responsible for his behaviour. You don't need to address/fix or deal with it.

[Anonymous]

This is much better than my Post Separation Abuse ex narc husband.

[Anonymous]

How old is your kid and have they noticed / do they care?