This. When a child is involved more is involved including communicating with the other parents about your child meeting a new partner. I also don’t really understand why you always have to sleep over when the child is with the dad if the dad only gets the child 50/50. My dad died and my mom ended up getting engaged to someone who lived with us but then he just decided to leave. It was pretty devastating to a kid. It ended up being for the best, but when kids are involved it is not about you and if you keep making it about you and not what is best for the kid (being kind to her mother) then you shouldn’t be in this relationship. You should immature. |
What on earth are you reading? No, she's refusing to get out of a car and say hello, listening to baby daddy's voicemails and reading his texts, and trying to gin up sympathy on DCUM. She's gleefully getting in the middle of a coparenting conflict and then behaving like a child instead of an adult. Her boyfriend is inappropriately by involving her with his drama (which she clearly gets off on, she's got the vibe of a 24 year old who has been convinced by her older boyfriend she's "special" and "not like those other girls") and then stonewalling the mother of his child when she very reasonably wants to meet the third adult sleeping in a house with her kid. |
OP is into the drama. Feel sorry for the kid. Dad should have a better "picker" now that he is a parent. |
Birth mother or bio mom are far more respectful. |
Nope, I’ve been her. She is being immature. Have an adult conversation over dinner; that’s what I did. Who cares what the mother has said about you, this isn’t high school. |
All of this. Twice. 🫡 |
Dump this guy. He is using up the best years of your dating life. Things will only get worse with the drama. |
You lost me at " baby mama" |
Meet with her. Go for coffee. Suggest it's time to stop the drama. |
This. He already has one baby mama. Don't be number two. Going forward, don't date men with a "baby mama." |
OP should also make the same suggestion to her BF -- he's the one that is sharing info about texts and conversations between the biological mom and the BF. He is sharing private communication in order to stir up drama and competition between women. It's also a way of bonding OP to him by creating a common enemy -- his former GF. OP, how can you not see that this guy is at least a big a manipulator and drama queen as the mother of his child. |
Which is why those of us who are “very old” are more discerning about who we choose to date |
When he's supposed to be spending time with his DD, you shouldn't be there. He also should never have introduced you to his daughter without clearing that with his ex, first. He's sloppy. Also, if you were smart and had any self-respect, you'd not enter into (and continue) a relationship with a messy excuse for a man. Please set the bar much higher. |
Omg ffs. An ex is not entitled to meet or have demands with who you spend time with, or who the child spends time with. I'm sure you feel they "should" but this is not a thing people. Also - it's pretty rich to say that no one else is supposed to be around - but how long does that last for BOTH parties - til kids are 18? So you're suggesting that all co-parents stay single until all kids of divorce are adults? You're ridiculous. OP should absolutely NOT meet ex if ex is proven to be unhinged and unstable - particularly because she is not a step mom or even a potential one at this point. She is a girlfriend and dating this guy. Could she be the "bigger" person? Certainly - but ex gives no incentive to do so - calling OP names, demanding, etc. is all on the BF to handle his way. I'm sorry to tell you guys but when you are not together and are co-parenting - you do not have the RIGHT to vet who your kid is around during time with other parent unless you can prove the person in question is harming the kid - and you do that through the courts - not just yelling out demands. OP should continue to pursue this relationship - and decide if all the drama is worth it in the end - but that's where her obligation ends - she doesn't owe the ex anything. Period. |
If only more stepmothers could be like you PP. |