What's it like when your child gets accepted to HYPS?

[Anonymous]

Do you keep it a secret or spill the beans on facebook pretty quickly? Are you hounded with questions on how you did it? Are there passive aggressive haters jealous their kid didn't get in some place that elite? Or maybe nobody really cares?

[Anonymous]

This is such a weird post. Firstly, it wasn't my news to share. Secondly, while they may have told their closest friends where they were applying, they definitely did NOT announce each acceptance letter. Thirdly, kids only use Facebook to appease their old-people relatives. So they may post "Yale class of 2020!" but then they close Facebook and go back to Snapchat. They're not monitoring each like or reply on Facebook, because they don't care.

Nobody asked ME how *I* did it, because *I* did not get into an Ivy. My children did. I doubt anyone asked them how they did it, because anyone who knows them knows they spent hours working on grades, and extras.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is such a weird post. Firstly, it wasn't my news to share. Secondly, while they may have told their closest friends where they were applying, they definitely did NOT announce each acceptance letter. Thirdly, kids only use Facebook to appease their old-people relatives. So they may post "Yale class of 2020!" but then they close Facebook and go back to Snapchat. They're not monitoring each like or reply on Facebook, because they don't care.

Nobody asked ME how *I* did it, because *I* did not get into an Ivy. My children did. I doubt anyone asked them how they did it, because anyone who knows them knows they spent hours working on grades, and extras.

Tiger / type-A parenting books are popular. That's what I meant about how'd you do it questions.

[Anonymous]

Nobody cares.

[Anonymous]

Once the Herald Angels finish playing and hand over the thick envelope, the parents are carried off on the shoulders of their peers.

[Anonymous]

It was exciting but honestly we only called our immediate families however would have done that no matter what school they got into, had nothing to do with where they go in though of course my D was very excited.

The irony here is that after a year there she decided to change schools (non ivy ) but super happy. All is not to be had in one.....I always say the grass is greener where you water it.

[Anonymous]

I remember when I was in high school in the late 80s a few kids got into HYPS and nobody could confirm it -- I think the kids took most courses dual enrolled at the nearby public university their senior year. Oh, but I guess one popular athlete got into Yale for his sport, but I don't think kids or families really grasped what a big deal it was to get into that caliber of college.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It was exciting but honestly we only called our immediate families however would have done that no matter what school they got into, had nothing to do with where they go in though of course my D was very excited.

The irony here is that after a year there she decided to change schools (non ivy ) but super happy. All is not to be had in one.....I always say the grass is greener where you water it.

Oh, interesting. I'd love to hear why she transferred and if there were any things you would have evaluated/done differently from the outset…signed parent of senior

[Anonymous]

You may find some useful information in this thread:

http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/15/94308.page#758445

[Anonymous]

"F*ck, how much?" was my first reaction

[Anonymous]

We didn't tell anyone OP. But, it was very exciting for my dh, me, and our kid who got in.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do you keep it a secret or spill the beans on facebook pretty quickly? Are you hounded with questions on how you did it? Are there passive aggressive haters jealous their kid didn't get in some place that elite? Or maybe nobody really cares?

I think you should tell everyone but only whenever the conversation leads to that topic. Do not force it because then you will be perceived as a show off. But since you have kids applying to college sooner or later the topic will come up when talking to friends, relatives, colleagues etc. When it does then casually mention it.

People do get jealous for sure. Especially people whose kids were striving for HYPS but only got into lesser elites (i.e. non-HYP ivies, Duke, Chicago etc) are especially jealous.

[Anonymous]

Interesting. DC is only applying to “lesser” Ivies because didn’t like the HYP vibe. So DC will be happy to get in a lesser Ivy, but won’t be jealous of those in the “upper” Ivies.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is such a weird post. Firstly, it wasn't my news to share. Secondly, while they may have told their closest friends where they were applying, they definitely did NOT announce each acceptance letter. Thirdly, kids only use Facebook to appease their old-people relatives. So they may post "Yale class of 2020!" but then they close Facebook and go back to Snapchat. They're not monitoring each like or reply on Facebook, because they don't care.

Nobody asked ME how *I* did it, because *I* did not get into an Ivy. My children did. I doubt anyone asked them how they did it, because anyone who knows them knows they spent hours working on grades, and extras.

Tiger / type-A parenting books are popular. That's what I meant about how'd you do it questions.

Oh. I don't consider myself to have gotten into an Ivy, what with ... not having gotten into one and all. I think my kids didn't really care. They were pretty burnt out at that point and ready to coast through the rest of their senior years. Once a decision was made which school they were going to, I think they were relieved.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Interesting. DC is only applying to “lesser” Ivies because didn’t like the HYP vibe. So DC will be happy to get in a lesser Ivy, but won’t be jealous of those in the “upper” Ivies.

Your DC is not striving for HYPS so that doesn't apply to them. But most kids who end up at so-called lower ivies/elites were striving for HYPS(M). Of course there are students like your DC for whom the school is genuinely their top choice. Jealousy is a natural reaction at first for the former group of kids and their parents but it goes away pretty quickly for most. Still there is an ever so slight inferiority complex lurking around with respect to HYPSM. It just stems from the hypercompeititve nature of most of the ivy-bound kids. There is even a small inferiority complex amongst Yale students with regards to Harvard.