Are most of your currently closest friends those from college?

[Anonymous]

Looking at my friends and family, it's only a small percentage whose closest friends were made during college. That surprised me, as one pitch my DS has heard throughout the app process is that finding the right fit college is also about finding your future friends for life. What's been your experience?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Looking at my friends and family, it's only a small percentage whose closest friends were made during college. That surprised me, as one pitch my DS has heard throughout the app process is that finding the right fit college is also about finding your future friends for life. What's been your experience?

I think this is a big myth, but also sounds very appealing to 16/ 17 year olds who have no perspective on what "friends for life" really means.

And frankly, I find the few people that I know at my age (mid 40s) who still talk about friends from college, are those whose life seemed to peak then.

[Anonymous]

Yes, my closest friends are friends from college, but I think that's mostly because they also live here. If they did not, I don't know if I would be as close friends with them.

[Anonymous]

One of my best friends is from college. I socialized much more with my college friends through my twenties. Now in my late 30's I socialize most with a core group of friends I met through various activities plus a couple of college friends.

[Anonymous]

Yes, my closest friends are from college and I graduated in 1977.

[Anonymous]

Actually, my closest friends are either people I knew from childhood (before college) or people I have met since then. In fact, I am probably closer to people I met in law school than I am to people in college.

[Anonymous]

No not at all.

[Anonymous]

Most of my closest friends are from college. They don't all live here. Others are from law school, and they also live all over.

[Anonymous]

Yes, my closest friends are from college - actually from a year abroad program we did together. We have been close for decades. We oddly never talk about college or the past - they are very much a part of my daily life.

And to the bitter PP above - it has nothing to do with when we "peaked". If you don't have friends from college - that is okay, too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Looking at my friends and family, it's only a small percentage whose closest friends were made during college. That surprised me, as one pitch my DS has heard throughout the app process is that finding the right fit college is also about finding your future friends for life. What's been your experience?

I think a lot has changed due to the internet/social media. The way we make and maintain relationships has changed, so some of these old rules no longer apply. I'm in my 30s and barely know anything of my closest high school friends. My college friends I don't see regularly, but we keep in touch and when I do see them, it's a very natural and comfortable and easy interaction.

[Anonymous]

Yeah... I had to think about it for a moment but, yes - my closest friends are from college.

[Anonymous]

No, I have a few from high school, a few from college and more mom friends. I'd say that I'm closest to HS then college friends. I didn't go to college around here though, so all of my college friends live in the NYC area.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, my closest friends are from college - actually from a year abroad program we did together. We have been close for decades. We oddly never talk about college or the past - they are very much a part of my daily life.

And to the bitter PP above - it has nothing to do with when we "peaked". If you don't have friends from college - that is okay, too.

PP here. Who says I am bitter? If anything, they are, as on some level I think they realize how foolish they sound rooting for The Team and still talking about Kappa Kappa K days, at the age of 45.

[Anonymous]

I have one close friend from college but I only see her once a year when we visit CA, where I grew up and went to college.

My current group of close friends are all women I've met via mom stuff in DC.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, my closest friends are from college - actually from a year abroad program we did together. We have been close for decades. We oddly never talk about college or the past - they are very much a part of my daily life.

And to the bitter PP above - it has nothing to do with when we "peaked". If you don't have friends from college - that is okay, too.

PP here. Who says I am bitter? If anything, they are, as on some level I think they realize how foolish they sound rooting for The Team and still talking about Kappa Kappa K days, at the age of 45.

NP, but you do sound kind of bitter. You can be friends with people from college without all of your conversations centering around that time in your life. Sounds like you have an issue with what this people are discussing, not the people they are discussing it with.