If all communication is via snap chat- how can you know what is going on with your kid's phone????

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would have hated my mom if she was listening in on my phone calls or checking my backpack for notes when I was a teen.

I would have hated it also! I think it’s more common for parents to do this now, though.

In our house kids are given privacy. I know, that’s a controversial statement in 2023. But it’s one thing my mother gave us, and I am truly thankful for it.

HOWEVER, if I suspected my kids had issues that needed an adult, I would have course check the phone. So it really depends on the kid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You don't. You stop snooping and start relying on good communication, respect and trust with your teens. You respect their privacy. They trust that they can come to you unconditionally for help with hard things. You both communicate fairly and openly about risks, worries and fears.

My neighbor did this and her daughter’s best friend had old pics of her and sent them to the student body during lunch after they got into a fight. Via air drop. Cops figured out who sent it, went to the house, found the pics hidden on the calculator app. Girl was expelled out of the school district and charged. Other girl was mortified for life.

This isn’t the old days people

[Anonymous]

Just recently let my 13 year old have Snapchat but I connected his account through family center via my snap chat account so I can see all of his friends and texts. Just the fact that I can I hope will keep him in line.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just recently let my 13 year old have Snapchat but I connected his account through family center via my snap chat account so I can see all of his friends and texts. Just the fact that I can I hope will keep him in line.

Forgot the link
https://help.snapchat.com/hc/en-us/articles/8132784476820-How-do-I-add-my-teen-to-Family-Center-

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Friendly reminder from a digital forensics investigator that snapchat messages do not disappear into the ether. They are still located on your child's phone AND so are the messages they receive. That is why it is so, so, SO important that if your child receives an inappropriate message from a friend or unknown person, they report it immediately.

I have personally been involved in numerous cases where recovered snapchat messages saved the case.

That’s why you need end to end encryption like What’s App

Those messages can be recovered as well. It’s just more time consuming and expensive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You don't. You stop snooping and start relying on good communication, respect and trust with your teens. You respect their privacy. They trust that they can come to you unconditionally for help with hard things. You both communicate fairly and openly about risks, worries and fears.

When my kid is paying for his own phone, he can have more privacy. Heck, my DH has access to my log-in info. We do communicate about risks and fears, but kids don't always make good decisions even when they know what a good decision is.

I'm happy to discuss, discuss, discuss. But, I'm also open to checking up on my kid's social media. Do what works for you. I'm not saying that you should or shouldn't. But, don't be so quick to disparage parents who do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You don't. You stop snooping and start relying on good communication, respect and trust with your teens. You respect their privacy. They trust that they can come to you unconditionally for help with hard things. You both communicate fairly and openly about risks, worries and fears.

My neighbor did this and her daughter’s best friend had old pics of her and sent them to the student body during lunch after they got into a fight. Via air drop. Cops figured out who sent it, went to the house, found the pics hidden on the calculator app. Girl was expelled out of the school district and charged. Other girl was mortified for life.

This isn’t the old days people

What kind of pics? What was the crime?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Tell your child they have to have all snap conversations on “delete after 24hrs” and not delete immediately. Know their log in. Have snap on your own phone with their log in and you can log in at any time.

Watch a snap tutorial online so you know where to look for things. For Your Eyes folders are where a lot of kids hide things.

Also take a look at their pictures/videos and deleted pics/videos. Teens tend to screen record comment videos when they half swipe - meaning before they fully open them. That is where I have found the most info.

The snap group chats are where kids are at their worst and they are always listed. Sometimes a deleted comment here or there but most are dumb enough to just leave their comments for everyone to see.

My kids don't have phone yet, we are probably a year or two away from that -- what does the bolded mean?

[Anonymous]

Kids, even smart kids from great homes, get lured on line. Parents need to follow online activity for safety.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Kids, even smart kids from great homes, get lured on line. Parents need to follow online activity for safety.

You would think. But most don’t.

[Anonymous]

My kid doesn’t have Snapchat, his choice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Kids, even smart kids from great homes, get lured on line. Parents need to follow online activity for safety.

You would think. But most don’t.

Most don’t, but some do. I’m hoping to do what I can to help my kid.

Enough of a problem that even the FBI is aware.

https://www.washingtonpost.com/parenting/2023/10/02/teen-boys-sextortion/?pwapi_token=eyJ0eXAiOiJKV1QiLCJhbGciOiJIUzI1NiJ9.eyJyZWFzb24iOiJnaWZ0IiwibmJmIjoxNjk2MzA1NjAwLCJpc3MiOiJzdWJzY3JpcHRpb25zIiwiZXhwIjoxNjk3Njg3OTk5LCJpYXQiOjE2OTYzMDU2MDAsImp0aSI6ImJlZmI5MWRhLThlMzctNGNmZC05MzY5LTc5ODdlNzg4YmEzNiIsInVybCI6Imh0dHBzOi8vd3d3Lndhc2hpbmd0b25wb3N0LmNvbS9wYXJlbnRpbmcvMjAyMy8xMC8wMi90ZWVuLWJveXMtc2V4dG9ydGlvbi8ifQ.1sw5QVek0KtZmDkKiPnyXWu2azRLjElGo3P1Yp88Tew

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just recently let my 13 year old have Snapchat but I connected his account through family center via my snap chat account so I can see all of his friends and texts. Just the fact that I can I hope will keep him in line.

Family center only lets you see friend list and who your child has been texting with, you don’t actually see any of the messages.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would have hated my mom if she was listening in on my phone calls or checking my backpack for notes when I was a teen.

I would have hated it also! I think it’s more common for parents to do this now, though.

In our house kids are given privacy. I know, that’s a controversial statement in 2023. But it’s one thing my mother gave us, and I am truly thankful for it.

HOWEVER, if I suspected my kids had issues that needed an adult, I would have course check the phone. So it really depends on the kid.

Gen X parent and agree. Our kids know that we can and will check their phones if we have concerns. However, we also have really open communication with them. They have both show us messages that made them uncomfortable and we dealt with it together.
We also have a no social media until 14 and no phones in bedrooms rules.

[Anonymous]

This article talks about access to drugs and SnapChat. Not sure if the lawsuit will go anywhere, but the stories are sad. Hope the families can find peace.

https://www.yahoo.com/gma/parents-kids-died-getting-drugs-085139381.html