Fake names for her "ex-lovers"?

[Anonymous]

My GF just admitted that when she told me about past lovers, she would substitute fake names for her ex lovers' real name.

For example, if the guy's name was really "David", she would tell me about the guy and their relationship, but tell me his name was "Paul" instead of "David".

What is the purpose of this? Was she still seeing these people and did not want me to get suspicious if we bumped into them while out, or if their names popped up on caller ID?

[Anonymous]

Because you know him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Because you know him.

Lol

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Because you know him.

No, she dated these folks when she lived 300 miles away from me in a town I'd never been to before and did not know anyone from there.

[Anonymous]

Weird. Have you asked her why?

[Anonymous]

So if she looks them up or you run into them, you'd never know. Tube light

[Anonymous]

She wants to be able to maintain a friendship with then without you freaking out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She wants to be able to maintain a friendship with then without you freaking out.

+ 1.

Unless an ex was abusive and horrible. many women would like to continue with a friendship, because they might like the guy as a friend and also like aspects of their personality, but did not share a romantic spark.

It is difficult to explain such relationships to your SO, because they are never comfortable with the "non-sexual" friendships.

[Anonymous]

They're probably FB friends and she doesn't want to skeeve you out.

[Anonymous]

i think that's immature on the part of your gf.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:i think that's immature on the part of your gf.

+1000 and for any woman that wants to be in a mature, adult and loving relationship but still cling to her past lovers under the guise of being "friends"

[Anonymous]

I didn't tell my DH the names of past relationships out of respect for him--he didn't want to know, and I also didn't think it was necessary to tell him (these were all people he's never met and never will meet, and we will never live in the same cities as them). Though I also am not friends with any of them out of respect for him and for our marriage.

I think you only should know the necessary details (how many intimate partners and how long the relationships lasted). Anything else is too much.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I didn't tell my DH the names of past relationships out of respect for him--he didn't want to know, and I also didn't think it was necessary to tell him (these were all people he's never met and never will meet, and we will never live in the same cities as them). Though I also am not friends with any of them out of respect for him and for our marriage.

I think you only should know the necessary details (how many intimate partners and how long the relationships lasted). Anything else is too much.

100% agree. But, making up names is weird. Typically, we fabricate to hide something or deceive someone. It's ok for her to not share names with him, but to make them up? Hmmmm.... Did OP say context of how the names even came up?

[Anonymous]

So you cant google them?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They're probably FB friends and she doesn't want to skeeve you out.

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