If my son rides the bench, should my wife facebook brag after all the games?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The OP's wife is using the soccer games to faux-coy brag about her son being at a private school. See this all the time from private families; they also use private school charity functions, church events, etc.

Private school parent here. Yes we are proud of our boy and the school he attends. So why not brag? People brag about vacations, restaurants, parties, kitchen remodels, and on and on. Perhaps PP is envious of their private school friends.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The correct term is riding the pine.

And there is nothing wrong with that unless your kid is in his final year of playing. He's there to watch the technicalities of his sport. This is not a charity position. He has some skills that have just yet to be defined.

And Dad, do your part. You should be home coaching your kid instead of being ashamed. At least your wife cares.

Why would you assume the dad is in any position to coach his son? My kids play soccer but their dad didn't, so they know much more than he does and he would be of no help.

[Anonymous]

I think it depends on what she's posting...if its "yay, go team!" then it's fine. If it's along the lines of "Billy played amazing today and that's why his team won" then it's sad--especially if she is FB friends with other parents who have kid's on the team.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Guy here... your wife should stop. She is not helping your son or teaching him anything of value. If anything she is reenforcing that you do not have to work hard to succeed.

This is on the mark. The only way a bench rider gets better than his teammates is by practicing on his own time. OP, is your son practicing for hours at home? If not, the above comment is correct; your wife is reinforcing that merely the illusion of success is comparable to actual success.

[Anonymous]

Get over it OP. You sound like you have issues trying to micromanage your wife's Facebook. Good God.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Get over it OP. You sound like you have issues trying to micromanage your wife's Facebook. Good God.

Or is concerned about what values his wife is impressing upon his son.