11YO DD refuses to use TP when she pees

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm the PP who acknowledged that my response was going to come across as "crazy" to some. I'm not offended by 18:43's comment but could 18:43 help me understand why the suggestion I posted leads to identifying me as "Miss Hippie" (is it that the response is a throw-back to a "hippie" lifestyle? How so? If it's my use of the word "organic" maybe I was using the term incorrectly or at least confusedly and I do want to clarify that -- in this instance, I meant "organic" as a reference to something originating naturally/i.e. from the body). I don't want to derail the post; all that really matters is that OP and her daughter get on a track that's better for them both. Just curious about the connection between "Miss Hippie" label and what I wrote (for my own clarification). Thanks.

I'm not 18:43, but I think I can clarify: 18:43 is an asshole.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:anyone else have a pre-teen DD that refuses to wipe?

Your daughter has a boyfriend. She perceives that, after intercourse, there is still some of "him" inside her and she doesn't want to wipe any of "him" away.

It is similar to girls at a concert who touch the star, or the stage where the star has stood, and claim she won't wash her hands ever again because she touched a place where "he" has been.

Even urinating, your daughter perceives that some of "him" is washing away from her and she is pained to see the mingled essence of her pee-pee and a part of "him" flow away, so she refuses to
flush because it is too painful to bear that even a tiny cell of "him" should depart from her.

She is in love, she is overwhelmed by "him", and won't flush or wipe because it represents a parting from the desired situation of being 100% intertwined with one another.

I suggest, being the good momma you are, to take her to the clinic to get checked out. Also, check her homework and notebooks while you are at it. You may see doodles of love all over the papers.

Good luck with that.

How long did it take you to write this?

I'm guessing it was a while since it sounded like he was doing it one-handed.

PP shouldn't you be trolling the explicit Relationships forum?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:there is a potty full of yellow pee. YUCK!!!

There is a misconception among yoots of today that leaving the toilet full of piss will absorb marijuana odor meaning mommy won't find out.

"What's that smell?"

"Oh garsh, I forget to flush. Just stale urine mom, tee-hee."

What a naughty l'il DD you may have.

[Anonymous]

Don't know if anyone's said this (haven't read through the thread) but maybe she pees and then hops in the shower. So that's the reason for no TP in the toilet.

[Anonymous]

Tell her that if she doesn't wipe she's putting herself at greater risk of UTI and if she gets one you'll have to tell the doctor that the reason is due to her poor hygeine.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Tell her that if she doesn't wipe she's putting herself at greater risk of UTI and if she gets one you'll have to tell the doctor that the reason is due to her poor hygeine.

But is this really true? I kinda doubt it.

If it were me I'd insist on flushing, but stop nagging her re TP - if she showers regularly nothing too bad will happen, and she'll get motivated soon enough. Pick your battles I guess - you can't really control it anyhow.