Is hugging considered cheating?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There are some men (male friends, even some of my husbands male relatives) who when they hug me it feels like they’re trying to feel my breasts up against them so kind of? But maybe I’m just paranoid…

Yes, some men press my chest in so tight during a hug.

[Anonymous]

It's an all facts and circumstances test. Everyone understands this. So...if you have to ask...yes, it's cheating.

[Anonymous]

No

[Anonymous]

This will probably be controversial, but I think hugging (long hug) instead of something more sexual is not cheating and is an honest way of saying to the potential AP that you acknowledge the attraction but nothing sexual is going to happen. As a spouse, i would wish it had not happened but I also would be appreciative that nothing sexual happened. I don't think I would be angry.

My feeling about monogamy is that it involves self restraint, not necessarily the shutting off of all attraction for others, which realistically is not possible for some people.

[Anonymous]

Cheating, no. Playing with fire? Yes.

[Anonymous]

If you have feelings keep your distance.

Unless you want to blow up your life and hurt people, but that’s a whole separate issue.

[Anonymous]

I agree that it is not cheating. It is all about intent. If the intent is to invite and lead to something else, it is still not cheating until you get to the something else, but the intent is cheating.

Someone mentioned something similar above, but a close hug that is meant to show affection, but not go further, is fine. Assuming that both parties are good with the type of hug and affection being expressed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This will probably be controversial, but I think hugging (long hug) instead of something more sexual is not cheating and is an honest way of saying to the potential AP that you acknowledge the attraction but nothing sexual is going to happen. As a spouse, i would wish it had not happened but I also would be appreciative that nothing sexual happened. I don't think I would be angry.

My feeling about monogamy is that it involves self restraint, not necessarily the shutting off of all attraction for others, which realistically is not possible for some people.

Agree with all this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This will probably be controversial, but I think hugging (long hug) instead of something more sexual is not cheating and is an honest way of saying to the potential AP that you acknowledge the attraction but nothing sexual is going to happen. As a spouse, i would wish it had not happened but I also would be appreciative that nothing sexual happened. I don't think I would be angry.

My feeling about monogamy is that it involves self restraint, not necessarily the shutting off of all attraction for others, which realistically is not possible for some people.

I have never thought about it this way with regard to a hug that maybe lingers, but it makes a lot of sense.

I have a colleague with whom there is clear chemistry. We are both also happily married and occasionally talk positively about our spouses. We have never discussed marital issues with each other or anything that would violate our relationship with our spouses. We do hug a little tighter than most people when we see each other in person (a few times a year). There is something there that acknowledges our closeness and also puts a boundary on it

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This will probably be controversial, but I think hugging (long hug) instead of something more sexual is not cheating and is an honest way of saying to the potential AP that you acknowledge the attraction but nothing sexual is going to happen. As a spouse, i would wish it had not happened but I also would be appreciative that nothing sexual happened. I don't think I would be angry.

My feeling about monogamy is that it involves self restraint, not necessarily the shutting off of all attraction for others, which realistically is not possible for some people.

I have never thought about it this way with regard to a hug that maybe lingers, but it makes a lot of sense.

I have a colleague with whom there is clear chemistry. We are both also happily married and occasionally talk positively about our spouses. We have never discussed marital issues with each other or anything that would violate our relationship with our spouses. We do hug a little tighter than most people when we see each other in person (a few times a year). There is something there that acknowledges our closeness and also puts a boundary on it

Do you have feelings for this colleague?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This will probably be controversial, but I think hugging (long hug) instead of something more sexual is not cheating and is an honest way of saying to the potential AP that you acknowledge the attraction but nothing sexual is going to happen. As a spouse, i would wish it had not happened but I also would be appreciative that nothing sexual happened. I don't think I would be angry.

My feeling about monogamy is that it involves self restraint, not necessarily the shutting off of all attraction for others, which realistically is not possible for some people.

I have never thought about it this way with regard to a hug that maybe lingers, but it makes a lot of sense.

I have a colleague with whom there is clear chemistry. We are both also happily married and occasionally talk positively about our spouses. We have never discussed marital issues with each other or anything that would violate our relationship with our spouses. We do hug a little tighter than most people when we see each other in person (a few times a year). There is something there that acknowledges our closeness and also puts a boundary on it

Do you have feelings for this colleague?

That's what "chemistry" means.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This will probably be controversial, but I think hugging (long hug) instead of something more sexual is not cheating and is an honest way of saying to the potential AP that you acknowledge the attraction but nothing sexual is going to happen. As a spouse, i would wish it had not happened but I also would be appreciative that nothing sexual happened. I don't think I would be angry.

My feeling about monogamy is that it involves self restraint, not necessarily the shutting off of all attraction for others, which realistically is not possible for some people.

I have never thought about it this way with regard to a hug that maybe lingers, but it makes a lot of sense.

I have a colleague with whom there is clear chemistry. We are both also happily married and occasionally talk positively about our spouses. We have never discussed marital issues with each other or anything that would violate our relationship with our spouses. We do hug a little tighter than most people when we see each other in person (a few times a year). There is something there that acknowledges our closeness and also puts a boundary on it

The boundary could be anywhere. Others would say swapping fluids is a boundary.

[Anonymous]

When you hugged, did an erect penis penetrate any bodily orifice? If so, its definitely cheating.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When you hugged, did an erect penis penetrate any bodily orifice? If so, its definitely cheating.

This happens to men simply by hugging?

[Anonymous]

Depends oh how long the hug lasts. And if there is swaying in the hug.