Who acknowledges your wedding anniversary

[Anonymous]

My mother and MIL both send us anniversary wishes. It's the only reason we even remember it each year.

[Anonymous]

I think it's nice your mother remembers your anniversary and sends you the wishes.

I have a friend who sends wedding anniversary wishes to her friends on their anniversary in WhatsApp group chat, and I find it rather strange. Naturally other friends in the group end up sending the wishes too. Most of the people in the group are married 20+ years and none of us were bridesmaid including herself.

[Anonymous]

My in-laws and my SIL. I thought it was weird at first but now it just seems normal to me, 20 years later. My in-laws give us a gift! Every year!

[Anonymous]

I’ve never heard of anniversary gifts every year from in laws! That’s nice, just unusual.

[Anonymous]

My mom.

Often we even forget…

[Anonymous]

My mother does when she remembers. My in-laws never do, not sure if that is cultural, Chinese. In-laws also never recognize my husband's b-day.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DCUMers are so antisocial. I’m old enough to remember when Hallmark had a dozen anniversary cards to send to happy couples (as in not for the people in the marriage to extend) and I’m a decade younger than the OP. This is totally normal.

Lol: And some of them expected you to know WHICH anniversary AND the appropriate accompanying symbol — like : gold, silver, paper….

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No one (except my husband and I) acknowledges our wedding anniversary which is totally fine with me.

Same here! If for some reason I realize that it’s one of my kids anniversaries I will send a text or make a call.

[Anonymous]

Normally my parents, but I don't think anyone aside from myself and husband need to remember and recognize it. It's a personal milestone, not incumbent on others to remember.

[Anonymous]

Wait, you are annoyed because your mother acknowledges your anniversary? You are a real peach.

[Anonymous]

I think this is sweet. My mom sends us a card every year.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op, I’m glad I’m not the only one who is bothered by this, even though it’s so minor. My in laws always send us wishes in the family group chat, which results in cascading wishes. And then calls us also. I think of it as something my husband and I celebrate and would not mind being left alone. But it’s sweet and I guess it is what it is.

I'm sure his family will leave you alone soon enough since you seem so enjoyable as a person.

[Anonymous]

My mom and our siblings usually send a card or call. I thought this was normal, am in my 50s.

[Anonymous]

This is funny, because today is my wedding anniversary! Both our sets of parents remember and text (and usually send cards too!)
I struggle to remember anniversaries, but really try to remember both my parents and my in-laws. It somehow seems like something older generations care more about?

[Anonymous]

Our parents, our kids, siblings, their families, spouses, our friends and also some of our neighbors who are on a Listserv of neighborhood friends.

My DH and I certainly remember it. My MIL had given us a huge surprise party to celebrate our 25th. It was awesome. What's not to like?