I think my seventeen year old son is gay.

[Anonymous]

He won't talk to me ! I'm apparently saying and doing all of the wrong things. We are very religious and he knows how wrong this lifestyle is. I want to help him but I don't know how !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I'm so afraid for him . Any suggestions?

[Anonymous]

accept him. love him. there is nothing wrong with him. there may, however, be something wrong with you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He won't talk to me ! I'm apparently saying and doing all of the wrong things. We are very religious and he knows how wrong this lifestyle is. I want to help him but I don't know how !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I'm so afraid for him . Any suggestions?

So you think that who is is and the person God created him to be is "wrong". People who think like this make me so sad. I grew up in church and the message I remember was that God loves us ALL. That we should not judge others. That Jesus would have accepted your son with open arms (have you read the bible? Jesus embraced everyone). Also do you know that the passage that condemns homesexuality also condemns eating shellfish and wearing clothing made of two materials. Isn't it interesting how we still choose homosexuality to condemn but just dive right into that lobster. Have you checked the tag on what you're wearing right now? Is it a blend? Hmmmm according to the bible you should be condemned then. Give me a break. I pray your son finds the love and acceptance is so deserves. If he were my son I would accept him exactly the way he is...because God created him that way. No wonder he won't speak to you.

[Anonymous]

pp: Something wrong with me ? Why because I don't agree with homosexuality ? I do love my son dearly , that's why I'm asking anonymous strangers advice about such a serious matter ! Sorry if you're offended by my honesty !

[Anonymous]

He knows how wrong YOU think this lifestyle is. If you're as religious as you say your are, this will be your biggest test of faith. Have faith in your son. Have faith that God loves all. And, frankly, this has nothing to do with god. Love him, accept him, and be there for him...NO MATTER WHAT. Separate how hard this is for "you" from how hard this is for him. He is your son. Deal with him first.

There is nothing wrong with him, or this "lifestyle." Please don't make this harder on him than it needs to be.

You have not failed. You've done nothing wrong. And neither has he.

[Anonymous]

pp: He speaks to me ! Each and everyday ! About anything and everything except this situation. I'm not a Christian ! Nor is he ! And I was raised to never associate myself with people who practice this lifestyle ! I love my son !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! He came from me. He is of me. I don't need criticism only advice from possibly someone with a similar situation! On ways of maybe talking to him about this. Or as a parent is this not my business ? NO SARCASM only major confusion. I am a single mother and if his father were within ear shot of this conversation I certainly wouldn't be.

[Anonymous]

22;15 Thank you ! Thank you very much !

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:pp: He speaks to me ! Each and everyday ! About anything and everything except this situation. I'm not a Christian ! Nor is he ! And I was raised to never associate myself with people who practice this lifestyle ! I love my son !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! He came from me. He is of me. I don't need criticism only advice from possibly someone with a similar situation! On ways of maybe talking to him about this. Or as a parent is this not my business ? NO SARCASM only major confusion. I am a single mother and if his father were within ear shot of this conversation I certainly wouldn't be.

Who cares if you're a christian? Nobody said you were--the PPs were talking about their faither. Koran, Bible, Torah, whatever. None of it is relevant to your question anyway. Of course he doesn't speak to you about it, how could he? I don't even know you (or care about you and your opinions) and I'm put off by the way you feel about this--the disgust is palpable through the internet. Imagine how your son must feel it. He wants your love and approval (regardless of age), and he's clearly not getting it--at least not on this. I find it really hard to believe that you can discuss this with him without showing your distaste.

It's quite sad for your son. I hope you both come to terms with it, because frankly, this isn't a lifestyle choice.

[Anonymous]

I believe that homosexuality is a sin and also a type of addiction, much like alcoholism. Should one of my children turn out to be gay or alcoholic I would still love them unconditionally and also present alternatives when possible. At some point you have to realize that your children are people who will pursue their own lives regardless of your input.

[Anonymous]

Stop feeding the troll, people.

[Anonymous]

Trolling much?

[Anonymous]

Pray teh gay away, bitch!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I believe that homosexuality is a sin and also a type of addiction, much like alcoholism. Should one of my children turn out to be gay or alcoholic I would still love them unconditionally and also present alternatives when possible. At some point you have to realize that your children are people who will pursue their own lives regardless of your input.

Unlike stupidity, which is pretty permanent.

[Anonymous]

22;38 I'm still trying to ! Next ?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:pp: Something wrong with me ? Why because I don't agree with homosexuality ? I do love my son dearly , that's why I'm asking anonymous strangers advice about such a serious matter ! Sorry if you're offended by my honesty !

Yes, something is wrong with you if you think that people are gay have chosen to be that way and therefore don't deserve to be who they are. God loves everyone and created everything according to the Bible. No?