How do I keep my mom out of the delivery room?

[Anonymous]

Things change when you become a mother - some of your issues with your own mother will be resolved - some will still linger.

Who you have with you when you bring your child into the world is up to you - however, how you embrace the world about it (right now it seems with a big chip on your sholder) is also up to you.

We get your fear and your tension....but, do you want to bring your child into a world where you're spewing anger at strangers when you're really mad at your mom? Tell her what's up and let whatever happens happen.

Enjoy your birth experience with Ralph.

[Anonymous]

OP, your name calling is disgusting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP,

Asshole? Pig? PLEASE. Your post was minimalist. I was giving your mother the benefit of the doubt. No need to attack me for that.

Why if she's this complicated (to put it mildly) do you want her help? Also, given the hostility you seethed in your post, have you sorted this out in your own head? You are very hostile.

Good luck to you. It's the most exhilarating thing in the world. I hope you can find a way to cope with your mother.

Your mama- you are still a judgmental expletive of your choosing

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, your name calling is disgusting.

Your mother is disgusting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Things change when you become a mother - some of your issues with your own mother will be resolved - some will still linger.

Who you have with you when you bring your child into the world is up to you - however, how you embrace the world about it (right now it seems with a big chip on your sholder) is also up to you.

We get your fear and your tension....but, do you want to bring your child into a world where you're spewing anger at strangers when you're really mad at your mom? Tell her what's up and let whatever happens happen.

Enjoy your birth experience with Ralph.

So at this point i realize you people are just dumb. No wonder your on the single mother side

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP,

It's going to be hard to tell her that you want someone else and not her. Why not her? I happen to agree with the second poster. Your calculus seems insensitive. If this is a schedule C, what's the big deal having your mother there? Our are you still really young and only want to use your mother to your advantage? Maybe there's something I don't know. But hey mom, you can't come in, my friend Ralph can seems weird to me.

Asshole. I am 40. My mother who has belitted every decision including but not limited to the amnio, the c-section, having a kid, taking to long to have the kid, etc.. is now insisting on not only arriving before the birth but bringing her cat......I"M ALLERGIC. I just told her to forget about it. The friend is the only person in the world who can tell me everything will be ok and I believe him. My mother will tell me all the things that can go wrong.
But again without knowing the whole story thanks for being a judgmental pig.

Missing the point. No one is questioning your right to exclude your mother from the delivery room. Who you what to be there when a person emerges from your body is and should be %100 your call. What people are raising eyebrows about is your stated goal of excluding her from the birth, but still getting her to help you afterward, which seems a bit douchey. If she's so terrible and you dislike her as much as this post reveals, then wanting her to help you out just seems pretty selfish.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP,

Asshole? Pig? PLEASE. Your post was minimalist. I was giving your mother the benefit of the doubt. No need to attack me for that.

Why if she's this complicated (to put it mildly) do you want her help? Also, given the hostility you seethed in your post, have you sorted this out in your own head? You are very hostile.

Good luck to you. It's the most exhilarating thing in the world. I hope you can find a way to cope with your mother.

You are still a judgemental insert the most offensive word for you here. You still dont know the whole story but lash out. Are you one of the dummies that post her entire life on this forum? In either instance I see why you are a Parenting "Special Concern." See ya glad I ain't ya.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Things change when you become a mother - some of your issues with your own mother will be resolved - some will still linger.

Who you have with you when you bring your child into the world is up to you - however, how you embrace the world about it (right now it seems with a big chip on your sholder) is also up to you.

We get your fear and your tension....but, do you want to bring your child into a world where you're spewing anger at strangers when you're really mad at your mom? Tell her what's up and let whatever happens happen.

Enjoy your birth experience with Ralph.

Who is Ralph? You folks are really pathetic. Have any of you even earned Doctorate's in mental health.
Note- not mad at mom just need her contained during the most stressful period of my life. If you know somebody's weakness why press them into a situation for them to fail? But I guess you dont figure that out trolling this forum searching for somebody with which to passive aggressive.

[jsteele]

I am not sure that the original poster is in a frame of mind that is conducive to the type of interaction that occurs on this website. As a result, this thread is likely causing her unnecessary stress. In the interest of all involved, I am going to lock the thread.