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That strikes me as a low risk scenario (which doesn't mean I don't understand why he didn't know what to say when caught off guard!!).
But, "sure, give me a call" is open-ended and encouraging yet doesn't give him an obligation to follow-up and doesn't put her in a position where she can spurn him publicly. No one knows whether she calls or not. And if she makes a big deal to her friends about not having called him, she ljust ooks like a jerk (and he looks like a decent guy -- receptive to getting to know her but not desperate to be with her). All this assumes he likes the girl (and ice cream). If he doesn't like the girl, then some polite brush-off (I'm going to be really busy/traveling/at camp this summer) is fine. Because, basically, we're back to don't be pressured into going out with someone because your friends think you should/want to watch. The most useful thing my Dad ever taught me about decisionmaking when I was a teen was to ask yourself "what's the worst thing that could happen?" and then think about whether you could live with that outcome (and, if not, to think about whether there was some way of eliminating or minimizing the risk). Your son might be surprised to discover that sometimes his vague fears will seem much less threatening when he pulls them out of the emotional closet and into the light. I certainly had that reaction! |
Anonymous
| My dd is at a girls school and they defintely don't do this. Althoguh they don't have a brother school so might make it more challenging. |
Anonymous
| Good to hear that mothers of girls at girls' schools have not heard of this game. That's good sign. But I wonder whether my duaghter wouyld tell me if there were such a game. Isn't part of the game not to let an adult know? |
Anonymous
PP, you posted under the wrong topic. Try this instead: Why are ethnic slurs considered worse than any other form of cruel speech? http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/112589.page |
Anonymous
| I think Jewish Mother was trying to be funny... |
Anonymous
Ethnic jokes are not funny. |
Anonymous
You're kidding, right? I think several hundred (maybe even thousand) years of humor beg to differ. Maybe you mean to say that some ethnic jokes are not funny, or that some ethnic jokes can cross the fuzzy line between funny and offensive. |
Anonymous
You have to know your audience if you are going to try an ethnic joke. On an anonymous forum, ethnic jokes are not a good idea. |