I really don’t want to go to my friend’s birthday party

[Anonymous]

How do I get out of it? I hate cancelling on people, but I’m exhausted.

It’s “couple” friends and one is having a birthday party/dinner. We RSVP’d yes when we thought DH would be going, but he had to go out of town for work for an emergency and now he can’t go. Also, when we RSVP’d we said “no” to the dinner since we already have preexisting family birthday dinner plans in the same area, but said we’d stop by during appetizers to visit. (It’s a casual drop-in house party.) Well, now the family plans have been canceled because of Covid, so we won’t even be in the area. At this point, I just don’t want to go, but I can’t tell her that! So what should I say?

[Anonymous]

Just say you are sick

[Anonymous]

Be OOT. Who cares?

[Anonymous]

I feel like you could say sorry but you can’t make it how

[Anonymous]

Say you're sorry but you don't feel well. But also consider going - I often find that when I do drag myself somewhere I usually end up having a blast. And no need to say anything about your dinner plans - you can still stay for just a little bit if you want.

[Anonymous]

Say plans changed and you’re not able to stop by now. You aren’t the star of the night, they’ll be ok without you.

[Anonymous]

Bad friend

[Anonymous]

Really crappy to not just rally and go. As a frequent host, I do notice who bags out at the last minute and try to avoid inviting them in the future. A friend of mine had 13 last minute cancellations to her Christmas party leaving her with an ocean of extra catered food. It’s just rude and selfish to not show at the last minute.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Really crappy to not just rally and go. As a frequent host, I do notice who bags out at the last minute and try to avoid inviting them in the future. A friend of mine had 13 last minute cancellations to her Christmas party leaving her with an ocean of extra catered food. It’s just rude and selfish to not show at the last minute.

Good hosts know that a couple people will always have something come up the day of.

[Anonymous]

I would send a text saying I'm not feeling well and unfortunately can't attend, but would have a bouquet of flowers and/or bottle of champagne delivered to her home earlier that day or on the actual birthday.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Really crappy to not just rally and go. As a frequent host, I do notice who bags out at the last minute and try to avoid inviting them in the future. A friend of mine had 13 last minute cancellations to her Christmas party leaving her with an ocean of extra catered food. It’s just rude and selfish to not show at the last minute.

Good hosts know that a couple people will always have something come up the day of.

DP. Which is why PP took the time to include the number 13 in her post. 2 cancellations are expected. 13 is ridiculous.

[Anonymous]

If they have other guests and your absence won’t leave a big hole, just say you don’t feel well. And you don’t: you’re wiped out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Bad friend

+1

I hate people who cancel the day off

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How do I get out of it? I hate cancelling on people, but I’m exhausted.

It’s “couple” friends and one is having a birthday party/dinner. We RSVP’d yes when we thought DH would be going, but he had to go out of town for work for an emergency and now he can’t go. Also, when we RSVP’d we said “no” to the dinner since we already have preexisting family birthday dinner plans in the same area, but said we’d stop by during appetizers to visit. (It’s a casual drop-in house party.) Well, now the family plans have been canceled because of Covid, so we won’t even be in the area. At this point, I just don’t want to go, but I can’t tell her that! So what should I say?

All you need to do is thank her for inviting you but you would be able to attend.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Really crappy to not just rally and go. As a frequent host, I do notice who bags out at the last minute and try to avoid inviting them in the future. A friend of mine had 13 last minute cancellations to her Christmas party leaving her with an ocean of extra catered food. It’s just rude and selfish to not show at the last minute.

Good hosts know that a couple people will always have something come up the day of.

DP. Which is why PP took the time to include the number 13 in her post. 2 cancellations are expected. 13 is ridiculous.

Depends on how many you are expecting. Could have been two families with kids.