Dropping off a kid when you can't see them enter their home

[Anonymous]

New carpool with a fifth grade friend. Friend lives in a big apartment building. The best place to drop off doesn't allow me to see the front door of the building well, let alone the apartment. Last time we dropped off a parent met us outside. This time they parent said they won't be able to come out but Carlo has a key. I asked if we should walk him to the door, but no response. I don't think they can readily text during the day.

WWYD?

1 drop larlo off assuming he'll get in
2 send my kid out with them to the main door
3 send my kid all the way up while I wait in the car (and hope they don't get distracted)
4 park, probably a few blocks away, so we can all go up

3 and 4 risks me running late to pick up my other kid but they'll be ok

[Anonymous]

3

[Anonymous]

Does the friend have their own cell phone?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Does the friend have their own cell phone?

They don't, they have some kind of watch but I think it only has certain allowed contacts

[Anonymous]

5TH GRADE. The kid can go upstairs alone.

[Anonymous]

Ask the parent if the kid can text you when he gets up to apartment

[Anonymous]

1 or 2. I think it’s nice to wait until the person you’re dropping off (any age) gets inside, but in this case it’s not practical, and the kid is old enough to be okay getting in on his own.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:New carpool with a fifth grade friend. Friend lives in a big apartment building. The best place to drop off doesn't allow me to see the front door of the building well, let alone the apartment. Last time we dropped off a parent met us outside. This time they parent said they won't be able to come out but Carlo has a key. I asked if we should walk him to the door, but no response. I don't think they can readily text during the day.

WWYD?

1 drop larlo off assuming he'll get in
2 send my kid out with them to the main door
3 send my kid all the way up while I wait in the car (and hope they don't get distracted)
4 park, probably a few blocks away, so we can all go up

3 and 4 risks me running late to pick up my other kid but they'll be ok

Had a similar situation and did #3. Told my DD to walk her friend to her apt door and make sure she gets in, and come straight back. However, the building was not that huge, so did not take long at all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:1 or 2. I think it’s nice to wait until the person you’re dropping off (any age) gets inside, but in this case it’s not practical, and the kid is old enough to be okay getting in on his own.

That's where I was leaning, but I don't want to be callous. I'm sensitive because when one of mine was 6 or 7 they once got dropped off an hour early after the lunch part of the day's plan got cancelled and the parent just drove right off before my kid got to the door in a rainstorm. No one was home and my kid was pretty upset, but survived of course.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:1 or 2. I think it’s nice to wait until the person you’re dropping off (any age) gets inside, but in this case it’s not practical, and the kid is old enough to be okay getting in on his own.

That's where I was leaning, but I don't want to be callous. I'm sensitive because when one of mine was 6 or 7 they once got dropped off an hour early after the lunch part of the day's plan got cancelled and the parent just drove right off before my kid got to the door in a rainstorm. No one was home and my kid was pretty upset, but survived of course.

That parent sounds crazy!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:1 or 2. I think it’s nice to wait until the person you’re dropping off (any age) gets inside, but in this case it’s not practical, and the kid is old enough to be okay getting in on his own.

That's where I was leaning, but I don't want to be callous. I'm sensitive because when one of mine was 6 or 7 they once got dropped off an hour early after the lunch part of the day's plan got cancelled and the parent just drove right off before my kid got to the door in a rainstorm. No one was home and my kid was pretty upset, but survived of course.

That parent sounds crazy!

+1

If the kid seems nervous I would do #3, but otherwise #2.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:1 or 2. I think it’s nice to wait until the person you’re dropping off (any age) gets inside, but in this case it’s not practical, and the kid is old enough to be okay getting in on his own.

That's where I was leaning, but I don't want to be callous. I'm sensitive because when one of mine was 6 or 7 they once got dropped off an hour early after the lunch part of the day's plan got cancelled and the parent just drove right off before my kid got to the door in a rainstorm. No one was home and my kid was pretty upset, but survived of course.

That parent sounds crazy!

Not that it's an excuse but I think it was his first time driving carpool. After that I made sure to drill into my DH head to always always wait.

[Anonymous]

Get out of the car and walk the kid with your kid.
How is this even a question.

And no carpooling again as the other mom is absurd to not give her kid a cell phone if they are alone at any age. Or she can come down and get her kid.

[Anonymous]

#2 for the next few times and see how it goes.

[Anonymous]

I'd have the kid text me when they got inside before leaving.