Do you care if a house guest keeps the space tidy during their stay?

[Anonymous]

We currently have a house guest staying with us for longer than I would prefer (2 weeks). We have a designated guest room but I use it for exercise and to store household linens, so I have to go in and out for towels and sheets, and I let them know this when they asked to stay. There is no en suite bathroom, the bedroom is next to the main guest/shared bath on our main floor.

Our guest has their stuff spread out wall to wall on the floor in the bedroom, has not utilized the luggage stand or closet. I went in to get some clean sheets and towels while they were out so as not to intrude and there are empty soda cans and takeout containers as well, which I find unsanitary. Their toiletries and accessories are all over the bathroom counter.

I'm not going to say anything, but am I out of line to be irritated by this? Do you care if a house guest keeps the space tidy during their stay?

[Anonymous]

No

[Anonymous]

Nope. Dont care as longs as it not pee splatter or something.

[Anonymous]

Not at all. I never go in the guest room when we have guests. If they leave the door open and I see stuff everywhere still don't care. It's their space while they're there. As long as they clean up before they leave I don't care one bit.

[Anonymous]

Same policy i apply to my teenagers - i don't care about it but no food/soda wrappers. It attracts bugs and is disgusting. So yeah I would have an issue with it

[Anonymous]

I would care but I would never say anything.

[Anonymous]

Yes, and I would ask them not to bring anything other than water into their bedroom, for pest control purposes.

To be honest, that's a rule for everyone in our house - all food is eaten in the kitchen or dining room only, by everyone who lives here.

[Anonymous]

Food and trash sitting in the room would bother me, absolutely. I would throw it away. Since you have to get linens out of there, they should have their items contained a bit instead of spread across the floor. If it's a shared bathroom, then no they can't leave stuff all over the counter.

[Anonymous]

The clothes on the floor and not using the closet I could easily ignore.

Takeout and soda containers is gross.

[Anonymous]

I have inlaws with small children that keep their guest space like this. They are using a shared bath, but not on the main level. I had to learn to put my son's "delicate" toys away when they came to stay, as they would literally dump out all of the toys and go from play area to play area taking out toys and not putting them back. However...refer to them as the "cat in the hat" guests, because before they left it would be immaculate.

While my SIL was packing, her DH and kids would be tidying up. The bed was stripped, the trashcans emptied and the countertop wiped down. They would even offer to vacuum. They would make their kids help and the playroom would be cleaner than it was when they arrived - they wouldn't necessarily put things in their designated spaces, but I learned to be okay. The mess in the meantime sort of bothered me, but over the years I learned to live with it during their stay.

OTOH I am the guest who keeps our space even more tidy than I would have it at home. That is how I am in a hotel room as well. (which is one difference between my DH and me) But everyone is not like that.

[Anonymous]

I would care. I wouldn't say anything but I also wouldn't allow them to stay again in the future.

[Anonymous]

All 5 of us stay in one bedroom when we visit (3 under 5, yeah it's awful). That room looks like a bomb went off. I try to contain it, but the kids just rifle through their bags. I do keep the bathroom clean. I bring wipes and I wipe down the counters 2x a day. It's hard being a guest.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We currently have a house guest staying with us for longer than I would prefer (2 weeks). We have a designated guest room but I use it for exercise and to store household linens, so I have to go in and out for towels and sheets, and I let them know this when they asked to stay. There is no en suite bathroom, the bedroom is next to the main guest/shared bath on our main floor.

Our guest has their stuff spread out wall to wall on the floor in the bedroom, has not utilized the luggage stand or closet. I went in to get some clean sheets and towels while they were out so as not to intrude and there are empty soda cans and takeout containers as well, which I find unsanitary. Their toiletries and accessories are all over the bathroom counter.

I'm not going to say anything, but am I out of line to be irritated by this? Do you care if a house guest keeps the space tidy during their stay?

I'm a super neat and tidy guest myself but I don't really judge how guests keep things in guest room. If it bothered me, I'll post house rules on door and provide them baskets or closets to keep. Its better to be honest than resentful. That helps no one.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would care. I wouldn't say anything but I also wouldn't allow them to stay again in the future.

Exactly what I was going to say.

[Anonymous]

How old is this person? I am a psycho clean guest as are my kids because I have taught them to be. This sounds like a rude younger person...