Middle names of kids both from DH’s family?

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Deciding what to name our second kid. First kid is named after DH’s dad. Would it be weird if second kid also has a name from DH’s mom? It would mean a lot more to DH family- My family doesnt have a tradition of naming kids after relatives. It literally has never been done and is not part of our culture. But DH wonders anyway if my parents should have “their turn” and a have a middle name from my side of the family. He thinks they will secretly be pleased. We floated the idea as a thought and they said “oh that’s nice” but didn’t have much of a reaction otherwise. Whereas if baby is named after DH’s mom, she will be over the moon and guaranteed to cry buckets on the spot.

To complicate things, DH’s family is way wealthier so it influences how this will be perceived by both sides or by third parties. Not why we are doing it but thought it was worth mentioning.

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Do your kids get their last name from DH’s side of the family? I’m

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Omg how is this even a question. Of course you choose the side of the family who will fund the name choice baby’s PhD. Yes. You do. We all know it. Anyone who says otherwise is lying.

Gotta love your husband for the polite try though. That was very sweet. And he also knows you’re not going to do it.

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Any names from both sides that would work as a double name like Anne-Marie?

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Anonymous wrote:Omg how is this even a question. Of course you choose the side of the family who will fund the name choice baby’s PhD. Yes. You do. We all know it. Anyone who says otherwise is lying.

Gotta love your husband for the polite try though. That was very sweet. And he also knows you’re not going to do it.

The perception that we are doing it for this reason is why I am hesitant to do it. We make enough money that we don’t need anything from family and the last thing I wanna be seen as doing is pimping my kids name out to be written into the will.

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Rich grandparents always get naming honors

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Our kids all have first names that are Celtic (my side- though no previously used family names) and the middle names are taken from DH's mum and dads family names. Works for us.

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Anonymous wrote:Omg how is this even a question. Of course you choose the side of the family who will fund the name choice baby’s PhD. Yes. You do. We all know it. Anyone who says otherwise is lying.

Gotta love your husband for the polite try though. That was very sweet. And he also knows you’re not going to do it.

The perception that we are doing it for this reason is why I am hesitant to do it. We make enough money that we don’t need anything from family and the last thing I wanna be seen as doing is pimping my kids name out to be written into the will.

Pimp those kids out. This is how it’s done and everyone knows it and there is no shame in it. The richest families do it and they don’t need the money. It is just what you do.

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Anonymous wrote:Omg how is this even a question. Of course you choose the side of the family who will fund the name choice baby’s PhD. Yes. You do. We all know it. Anyone who says otherwise is lying.

Gotta love your husband for the polite try though. That was very sweet. And he also knows you’re not going to do it.

The perception that we are doing it for this reason is why I am hesitant to do it. We make enough money that we don’t need anything from family and the last thing I wanna be seen as doing is pimping my kids name out to be written into the will.

Pimp those kids out. This is how it’s done and everyone knows it and there is no shame in it. The richest families do it and they don’t need the money. It is just what you do.

What kind of example does that set for the children? What if we end up being the less wealthier of the 2 families when they get married?

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Could you use a name from each side? We squashed a tribute to five separate relatives and bestowed it on one kid. Our family is lousy with Larlos, but folks were so thrilled when we had another. It helps that many of the family names are very common in our culture.

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Anonymous wrote:Omg how is this even a question. Of course you choose the side of the family who will fund the name choice baby’s PhD. Yes. You do. We all know it. Anyone who says otherwise is lying.

Gotta love your husband for the polite try though. That was very sweet. And he also knows you’re not going to do it.

HA!

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How were the first names chosen?

Sounds like the kids have DH last name and are likely to both end up with DH family middle names -I'd have no issue this if the FNs were both my choice.

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You see overthinking, just pick the names that make sense who cares

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Anonymous wrote:Omg how is this even a question. Of course you choose the side of the family who will fund the name choice baby’s PhD. Yes. You do. We all know it. Anyone who says otherwise is lying.

Gotta love your husband for the polite try though. That was very sweet. And he also knows you’re not going to do it.

The perception that we are doing it for this reason is why I am hesitant to do it. We make enough money that we don’t need anything from family and the last thing I wanna be seen as doing is pimping my kids name out to be written into the will.

Pimp those kids out. This is how it’s done and everyone knows it and there is no shame in it. The richest families do it and they don’t need the money. It is just what you do.

What kind of example does that set for the children? What if we end up being the less wealthier of the 2 families when they get married?

Then no one will name babies after you? And you’ll be fine with it because you’re already thinking it doesn’t matter? But your kids will be even better off than they already are, and your grandkids will too. SEE? That’s how this works.

I think you just identified your secret fear though. You’re afraid or maybe ashamed that your side isn’t as wealthy as his side. Do your kids a favor and dig in deep to his side. They’ll be better off for it. That’s smart, OP. Everyone knows this.

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Wait, which name did you float with your parents? If you suggested that you were considering using a name from your family of origin and they said that would be nice, now it will be a thing if you use a name from dh’s family instead — unless you made it clear that you weren’t sure which side of the family you would honor.