If your parents are religious?

[Anonymous]

Let’s say your parents are religious would you tell them if you had to have an abortion?
It wasn’t an easy decision and at the end of the day, I still have the right to choice in Maryland, my mental health just isn’t ready to have a baby yet. My parents are 100% pro life, should I ever tell that I had to do it?

[Anonymous]

What do you hope to accomplish by telling them? Do you feel the need for "confessing"? Do you want them to approve your choice? Do you hope to change their minds on abortion? Think through what your goal is in disclosing.

Ultimately, this is your life, your choice. You don't owe them a disclosure.

My parents were pro-choice in theory. If I had an abortion and told them about it, I believe they'd be devastated (choice is fine and all, but this is their grandchild in their mind).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Let’s say your parents are religious would you tell them if you had to have an abortion?
It wasn’t an easy decision and at the end of the day, I still have the right to choice in Maryland, my mental health just isn’t ready to have a baby yet. My parents are 100% pro life, should I ever tell that I had to do it?

Sounds like you'd be saying it to tell them what terrible people they are for disagreeing with your decision. Do it, but know it makes you the bad guy.

[Anonymous]

I think it depends on how close you are with them. If they are there to support you no matter what, they may be okay with understanding your situation and want what is best for your mental health. If you don't think they will be supportive I wouldn't tell them...

[Anonymous]

What do you hope to gain by telling them? Do you tell your parents of every other medical procedure that you have?

[Anonymous]

I did not. Their belief system is not my belief system. I don't believe every baby/child is a blessing from god, I don't believe god will provide, I don't believe god doesn't give you more than you can handle, I don't believe people who have abortions go to hell, etc.

I was also raised being told every woman who has an abortion will regret it every day of their life and will feel shame and sadness every day. I felt overwhelming relief and most days don't think of it at all. On the rare occasion I do, I am again relieved.

Once I came close to telling my mother. She somewhat proudly said she doesn't know anyone with terrible enough morals to have had an abortion. I suggested perhaps she does but they know she'd be cruel and judgmental so they chose not to tell her, and she brushed me off.

Glad I had it, and glad I haven't told them.

[Anonymous]

None of their business. Why would you tell them?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Let’s say your parents are religious would you tell them if you had to have an abortion?
It wasn’t an easy decision and at the end of the day, I still have the right to choice in Maryland, my mental health just isn’t ready to have a baby yet. My parents are 100% pro life, should I ever tell that I had to do it?

First I am sorry you had to take this very difficult decision. I am sure it was not easy.

Good for you for taking care of yourself. I am religious but pro being responsible which means being pro choice and pro mental health care for women.

My religious mom was pro life but also practical. I probably would not have told her but may have told my mother in law who is not religious but also practical.

Only you know your parents well enough to judge whether this would be wise - not us in the DCUM peanut gallery.

MD does have good therapists - it might be wise to talk about it with a therapist first to process your feelings.

Best wishes processing the his very difficult experience.

[Anonymous]

Seems like you want to tell them to unburden any guilt you are feeling on them. If that’s the true reason deep down then that is pretty selfish. You shouldn’t tell them. All you would accomplish is upsetting them. Why would you want to do that?

[Anonymous]

My mom was semi-religious (not like hardcore) and I found out she had 2 abortions when she was young.

I probably wouldn't tell a religious parent if I had one though. I'd be afraid they'd shun me or kick me out or something.

[Anonymous]

There are plenty of things we did as kids that we never told our parents about. My mom always said, "if I didn't know then, don't tell me now" when she got older.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Let’s say your parents are religious would you tell them if you had to have an abortion?
It wasn’t an easy decision and at the end of the day, I still have the right to choice in Maryland, my mental health just isn’t ready to have a baby yet. My parents are 100% pro life, should I ever tell that I had to do it?

You’re confusing “religious” with “adheres to a particular denomination of Christianity.”

We are Jewish and there is no religious mandate to oppose abortion.

Please be more careful.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Let’s say your parents are religious would you tell them if you had to have an abortion?
It wasn’t an easy decision and at the end of the day, I still have the right to choice in Maryland, my mental health just isn’t ready to have a baby yet. My parents are 100% pro life, should I ever tell that I had to do it?

You’re confusing “religious” with “adheres to a particular denomination of Christianity.”

We are Jewish and there is no religious mandate to oppose abortion.

Please be more careful.

Respectfully, anyone with minimal reading comprehension knew what OP meant.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Let’s say your parents are religious would you tell them if you had to have an abortion?
It wasn’t an easy decision and at the end of the day, I still have the right to choice in Maryland, my mental health just isn’t ready to have a baby yet. My parents are 100% pro life, should I ever tell that I had to do it?

You’re confusing “religious” with “adheres to a particular denomination of Christianity.”

We are Jewish and there is no religious mandate to oppose abortion.

Please be more careful.

Respectfully, anyone with minimal reading comprehension knew what OP meant.

It’s still careless and assumes all religions are the same as particular brands of Christianity.