First date with a woman- tips?

[Anonymous]

I've been talking to a girl from hinge for about a week, we have hit it off over text. Nothing sexual but she's fun to talk to about everyday stuff. We are going out on Saturday. She asked me out for dinner or a drink. Dinner seems so formal for a first meet, should I just suggest a bar?

We are both inexperienced with women. Both looking for relationships but fine with friends too. I'm so nervous, I came out 3 years ago and this is my first time meeting up with a woman. We are 28. I have kids, she doesn't. I haven't kissed a girl in 10 years.

[Anonymous]

Try not to build it up too much.
For a first date keep it casual and simple. Coffee if early or a drink at a bar are fine, if you are both into that.

If you are lucky, you will hit it off.
If you are like me, you will have a couple dozen meh first dates before really hitting it off with someone.

Good luck!
(I was in your shoes a few years ago)

[Anonymous]

I tried this but found lesbians mostly wanted to show up for the second date with a u haul.

I realized I was lonely and wanted friendship, not a fast serious relationship, so date men. I gave it a try though and so should you! Have fun!

[Anonymous]

OP, how did it go?

[Anonymous]

Bi woman here. Dating women is so easy! You can actually talk to them like people because they have emotional awareness and empathy. If you’re nervous you can say “I’m nervous!” And they will respond in a sensitive way. It’s pretty hard to mess up, in other words. Relax, be nice (follow the golden rule!), be honest and vulnerable and see where things go!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, how did it go?

OP here with an update!
We are still dating! I actually slept over at her house for the first time last night. We have only kissed and cuddled though. She told me I need to make the moves pretty much since she gets nervous and hasn't dated a woman either. But I was too scared 😂 it was still nice cuddling though, hopefully the relationship progresses sexually soon, but I love the emotional connection we have so far.

[Anonymous]

I guess you were singing this today:

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, how did it go?

OP here with an update!
We are still dating! I actually slept over at her house for the first time last night. We have only kissed and cuddled though. She told me I need to make the moves pretty much since she gets nervous and hasn't dated a woman either. But I was too scared 😂 it was still nice cuddling though, hopefully the relationship progresses sexually soon, but I love the emotional connection we have so far.

This is so cute! I'm super happy for you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Bi woman here. Dating women is so easy! You can actually talk to them like people because they have emotional awareness and empathy. If you’re nervous you can say “I’m nervous!” And they will respond in a sensitive way. It’s pretty hard to mess up, in other words. Relax, be nice (follow the golden rule!), be honest and vulnerable and see where things go!

Bi man here. Men can and do have all the qualities you mention as well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Bi woman here. Dating women is so easy! You can actually talk to them like people because they have emotional awareness and empathy. If you’re nervous you can say “I’m nervous!” And they will respond in a sensitive way. It’s pretty hard to mess up, in other words. Relax, be nice (follow the golden rule!), be honest and vulnerable and see where things go!

Bi man here. Men can and do have all the qualities you mention as well.

They're specifically looking for and discussing WLW relationships in this thread. Leave it to a dude to come in and be like, "Not all men! Just be in a straight relationship!"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Bi woman here. Dating women is so easy! You can actually talk to them like people because they have emotional awareness and empathy. If you’re nervous you can say “I’m nervous!” And they will respond in a sensitive way. It’s pretty hard to mess up, in other words. Relax, be nice (follow the golden rule!), be honest and vulnerable and see where things go!

Bi man here. Men can and do have all the qualities you mention as well.

They're specifically looking for and discussing WLW relationships in this thread. Leave it to a dude to come in and be like, "Not all men! Just be in a straight relationship!"

OP here, yeah I haven't found any men nearly as good as her. I'm in the bay area so that doesn't help either. So far it's been a month and she has no red flags, that's rare. I'm switching sides 😂

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Bi woman here. Dating women is so easy! You can actually talk to them like people because they have emotional awareness and empathy. If you’re nervous you can say “I’m nervous!” And they will respond in a sensitive way. It’s pretty hard to mess up, in other words. Relax, be nice (follow the golden rule!), be honest and vulnerable and see where things go!

Bi man here. Men can and do have all the qualities you mention as well.

They're specifically looking for and discussing WLW relationships in this thread. Leave it to a dude to come in and be like, "Not all men! Just be in a straight relationship!"

Maybe men don’t like being stereotyped anymore than any other person? But then of course you doubled down with some more gender based generalities.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Bi woman here. Dating women is so easy! You can actually talk to them like people because they have emotional awareness and empathy. If you’re nervous you can say “I’m nervous!” And they will respond in a sensitive way. It’s pretty hard to mess up, in other words. Relax, be nice (follow the golden rule!), be honest and vulnerable and see where things go!

Bi man here. Men can and do have all the qualities you mention as well.

They're specifically looking for and discussing WLW relationships in this thread. Leave it to a dude to come in and be like, "Not all men! Just be in a straight relationship!"

Maybe men don’t like being stereotyped anymore than any other person? But then of course you doubled down with some more gender based generalities.

Yet there it was. A man coming on here trying to get a woman to date men when she's already said she didn't want to.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Bi woman here. Dating women is so easy! You can actually talk to them like people because they have emotional awareness and empathy. If you’re nervous you can say “I’m nervous!” And they will respond in a sensitive way. It’s pretty hard to mess up, in other words. Relax, be nice (follow the golden rule!), be honest and vulnerable and see where things go!

Bi man here. Men can and do have all the qualities you mention as well.

They're specifically looking for and discussing WLW relationships in this thread. Leave it to a dude to come in and be like, "Not all men! Just be in a straight relationship!"

Maybe men don’t like being stereotyped anymore than any other person? But then of course you doubled down with some more gender based generalities.

Yet there it was. A man coming on here trying to get a woman to date men when she's already said she didn't want to.

Maybe check your reading ability. She never said she didn't want to date men, she was asking about dating a woman. Also, I was responding to a separate poster (not the OP) who laundry listed a bunch of qualities that apparently (to her) only women have.

So sure, go ahead and twist what actually happened to fit the narrative you desire.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Bi woman here. Dating women is so easy! You can actually talk to them like people because they have emotional awareness and empathy. If you’re nervous you can say “I’m nervous!” And they will respond in a sensitive way. It’s pretty hard to mess up, in other words. Relax, be nice (follow the golden rule!), be honest and vulnerable and see where things go!

Bi man here. Men can and do have all the qualities you mention as well.

They're specifically looking for and discussing WLW relationships in this thread. Leave it to a dude to come in and be like, "Not all men! Just be in a straight relationship!"

Maybe men don’t like being stereotyped anymore than any other person? But then of course you doubled down with some more gender based generalities.

Yet there it was. A man coming on here trying to get a woman to date men when she's already said she didn't want to.

Maybe check your reading ability. She never said she didn't want to date men, she was asking about dating a woman. Also, I was responding to a separate poster (not the OP) who laundry listed a bunch of qualities that apparently (to her) only women have.

So sure, go ahead and twist what actually happened to fit the narrative you desire.

np This isn't about you. Go to a thread with hetrosexuals!